Pause and Reflect

This weekend my mother sent me an email worried that I’m not as happy as I say I am. Given my many frustrations and my continual insistence that everything is great, I’m surprised she’s the only one who has challenged me on this so far.

The problem isn’t my happiness (or lack thereof); the problem is the blog itself. You see, I’ve dealt with the major changes in my life and now I’m simply continuing on, living a conscious life while pursuing my dreams. In trying to come up with five posts a week about my life, I end up mining the minute details, extracting tiny fragments of annoyance or fear then refining them and adding to them until they are presentable as Someday Lessons.

This email comes at just the right time. I’ve been questioning the role of this blog in my life. I don’t want to give it up, but it needs to change. My recently writings (to me) have felt forced and more than a little unauthentic. I’ve therefore decided to re-examine the blog and its purpose. So, over the next few weeks while I determine and develop the new direction, I’m going to cut back on the number of posts during the week.

Think of it as an anticipatory lull.

Someday Lessons:

  • When we try to force meaning we lose authenticity.
  • Everything has a life cycle – don’t push something back the point it should end or transform.

7 thoughts on “Pause and Reflect

  1. I wish you peaceful clarity while you pause to take stock, and peaceful energy when you’re ready to walk on.

  2. Nik says:

    Hi Alex,

    Listening to Hay House Radio could open up exciting new horizons for you.

    Lots of love from Germany!

  3. Yes. Perfectly lovely perceptive idea. I am sending you good wishes.

  4. Alex Fayle says:

    Thanks all – the redevelopment is coming along great!

    @ Nik – thanks for the tip. I’ll go check it out.

  5. Hi Alex. Hoo-boy, do I know that feeling. I’ve gone through a couple rounds of what you’re describing.

    At one point I finally had to admit that my first blog had simply run its course. Everything I wrote started to feel just like you described – stale and forced.

    I took a break for a couple of months and came back with a new blog (The M.A.P. Maker). It was revitalizing.

    Here’s a thought. Take some time and don’t blog at all. Forget writing for anybody else. Forget what you think anybody else might want to read.

    While you’re on hiatus, spend some time writing for nobody but yourself. Where is your attention going? Where is the energy? Don’t try to force the focus of your writing – let it create itself. Follow it where it wants to go.

    When you have a better idea of what it is that is energizing you now, you can come back and share that energy with your readers.

    Best of luck!

  6. I’ll vote the contrary to Curt. Blog. But blog about someone else.

    Blogging about the things you do is tough and hard to handle. You have to be really emotionally strong, and even then it’s hard.

    But we all have problems. Find someone who would let it all hang out on a pen name basis or anonymous nature. Instead of examining your life, look at theirs and give your objective opinion.

  7. Alex Fayle says:

    Welcome back to blogging Curt. I’ve taken a week off and now I’m totally itching to get back to posting.

    @James – great idea, and I know just exactly how to do it. Thanks!

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