When I started blogging, Gretchen’s Happiness Project was one of the first sites I found. Her daily posts inspired me to turn Someday Syndrome into my own happiness project. Through her writings, I realized that life is about rigorously pursuing happiness and that for me, true deep happiness (and not mere gratification) arrived when I got rid of the word someday from my life.
Who: Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project
Gretchen Rubin is a writer who is working on a book, The Happiness Project—an account of the year she spent test-driving the wisdom of the ages, the current scientific studies, and tips from popular culture about how to be happy—on her blog, http://www.happiness-project.com, she writes about her daily adventures as she tries to be happier.
What variety of Someday Syndrome affected you the most? In what way?
One morning a few years ago, as I was riding the city bus, it occurred that what I wanted in life was “to be happy,” but I never spent any time thinking about happiness, or how I could be happier.
How did it affect the rest of your life?
Because I didn’t reflect much on happiness, I didn’t appreciate the happiness that I possessed, and I didn’t take active steps to become happier.
How would you describe your happiness level at that time?
I was pretty happy, but not as happy as I could have been—and should have been.
What changed? Was it gradual or did it come as an epiphany? Perhaps a mix the two?
I had an epiphany—a lightning-bolt moment when I realized that I had to think about my happiness NOW and start working toward it. I couldn’t keep telling myself that “someday” I’d make time for fun, or do family projects with my children, or read more, or write a novel. I needed to make time for my priorities NOW.
What dream are you in the process of realizing?
Writing my book about happiness – and spreading the word that yes, having a Happiness Project can make you happier!
How would you describe your happiness level now?
I’m happier than I was before I started. I’m also more considerate, less hot-tempered, and have more fun. I get more sleep and more exercise. I take more photos.
What advice would you give someone in the position you were in before?
Remember not to wait until “someday” to pursue your priorities. You’ll never have any “free time” – you have to MAKE time for the things you want to do.
- You might think your life is great, but without conscious choices, how can you be sure?
- You can either have lots of time or not enough time – it’s simply a matter of choice.