Dedicate Yourself to Life, Not Work

  • Someday Lesson: You are not your job.

I never realized until I moved to Spain just how job-focused North Americans are. When North Americans meet each other, one of the first questions usually is: “So, what do you do?”

Not so in Spain. Even the question “What do you do?” doesn’t translate. “¿Qué haces?” elicits a blank stare and the answer of “Um, talking to you (you idiot).”

With most of my friends it took me several months of knowing them before I found out what they did for work. To many Spaniards – especially to the mileuristas (the overeducated/underemployed 20- and 30-somethings) – a job is just what you do so that you can enjoy life. You don’t have to love it or derive a sense of self-worth from it. You just hope that you don’t hate it.

The Spanish way of asking about work (¿En qué te dedicas?) is: “In what do you dedicate yourself?” People then usually answer two things: what they get paid to do and what they do outside of work.

For example, my answer is that I teach English, but that I’m a writer. Everyone skips over the teaching part and jumps to the writing – the much more interesting part of my life.

This attitude helps me realize that I don’t need to be earning money from my passions (at least not right away). As long as I have a non-loathsome job that pays the bills and gives me time to pursue my passions, I’m a happy camper.

So, how about you? Do you define yourself by your job? In what do you dedicate yourself?

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45 thoughts on “Dedicate Yourself to Life, Not Work

  1. Hi

    In South Africa the same is true i.e. you are defined by your job.
    I don’t believe in that. When I am asked “what do you do?” I say something like: “Are you talking about work?” (although of couse I know they are) or “in what area of life do you mean?”

    Juliet

    LifeMadeGreat | Juliet´s last blog post..Overcoming the Barriers of Introversion: What To Look For in a Life Coach?

  2. Glen Allsopp says:

    I’m living in South Africa for now and I must say I agree with Juliet. The car you drive and the job you have are very big signs of status over here.

    Funnily you should write this topic. I’ve been working very hard to grow my sites over the last few months (working crazy hours), but my friend said to me I don’t see it as a means to an end. I.e. the hard work isn’t just for now until I’m making good money, I’ll keep doing it forever.

    We’ll see, I love what I do and do what I love.

    Great post Alex, Stumbled!

    Cheers,
    Glen

    Glen Allsopp´s last blog post..4,439 Words on Driving Traffic to Your Blog

  3. Tim Brownson says:

    I intrigued Alex as to what makes the writing more interesting. I see a huge upisde to beinga teacher. I think being married to a nurse has helped me appreciate the value of some of the less paid professions. The two right at the top of my list are nursing and teaching.

    The fact that attorneys and accountants earn exponentially more just conforms to me how out of whack the world is. Well, out of whack with my version of reality anyway 😉

    I don’t define myself by my job, but I love my job and I’m glad I stumbled into it.

    Tim Brownson´s last blog post..Special Pre-Cristmas Offer!

  4. Brett Legree says:

    I write documents in the nuclear industry to make money. But that isn’t “what I do”.

    The important stuff right now for me is centres around interacting with my family, and my friends (offline and online). Everything that means something to me involves these people.

    Defining yourself by your job can be difficult for some people, and certainly defining yourself by how much you make at your job is dangerous.

    I would argue that the most important people where I work right now are some of the lowest paid people, and they are not treated well by the McManagers.

    If they ever went out on a wildcat strike, the whole house of cards would come down…

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..viking fridays – the system is broken.

  5. When asked what I do, I answer, “I’m an online entrepreneur.”

    I never thought about it before, but to me, that sums up everything I DO, what I love doing, and what I do with my life.

    Funnily enough, it doesn’t label what I do for a job, which is copywriting, branding, consultation and marketing.

    You’re right, too. I’ve heard that we label ourselves very quickly with our jobs here in Canada but that other places in the world don’t do the same. That’s… very cool. Why aren’t we doing what they do?

    James Chartrand – Men with Pens´s last blog post..Drive-by-Shooting Sundays: Writer Dad

  6. Dega says:

    Watch Chris Rock’s new HBO special “Kill the messenger”

    Ideally its the differences between a Job and a Career

    Peace

  7. You don’t have to love it or derive a sense of self-worth from it. You just hope that you don’t hate it.

    Okay. So here I am on a week’s break from work because yesterday morning I burst into tears at the thought of leaving the house. This is NOT good. I guess I am going to have to adopt the Spanish way of thinking.

    I don’t hate my job, but I sure don’t like it. The problem is spending 10 hours of my day (I’ve put in commute time) doing something I don’t like. 5 days per week, for the past 10 years and for the next 15 years. I cannot wrap my mind around this concept.

    Are the Spanish putting in 50 hours a week on a job they don’t like? Less? More? I am just wondering if the scales are tipped more in favour of hours doing what they do love, and if that makes a difference.

    Okay, let’s face it. I am in complete crisis mode right now and can’t see a way out. Sigh.

    Urban Panther´s last blog post..I used to love online shopping

  8. Renee says:

    @Urban Panther – I was so relieved to read your reply – I’m not the only one! I quit my last job because I couldn’t physically make myself leave the house to go to that awful job even one more day.

    I had a little breakdown and took a month off.

    Great post – I wish more people realized that no one ever gets to the end of their life and says “I wish I’d spent more time at the office.”

    Renee´s last blog post..Have gadgets, will travel

  9. Laurel Vespi says:

    What a great conversation!
    It highlights why we struggle with the infamous concept of work-life balance. Somewhere along the line we got the idea that our “work” is separate from our “life”. When you figure out that your work can either be your passion in action, or as you said Alex, a way to support you while you pursue your passion, then balance becomes less of an issue.

  10. Brett Legree says:

    @Panther,

    I know where you are (I sent you an email with more detail). Hang in there, and look after yourself.

    Don’t stop looking for something that makes you happy. A good friend of mine once said, “you weren’t where you are now three years ago, what makes you think you’ll be where you are now, three years from now?”

    And an old girlfriend of mine told him that, when he was going through a tough time. You can change where you are, in time. You don’t have to stay where you are forever.

    I know this to be true, which is why I’m changing myself.

    -Brett

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..viking fridays – the system is broken.

  11. I’m blessed to say that what I do and what I dedicate myself to is one in the same. Essentially, I inspire and encourage the pursuit of right livelihood. I wonder about those mileuristas believe about the possibility of finding deeply authentic work in their lives?

    Is entrepreneurship and going your own way less of an attraction in Spain as well?

    Tom Volkar / Delightful Work´s last blog post..Grounding Your Small Business Vision

  12. @Renee – actually, I am on a week’s leave right now. Monday morning I burst into sobs at the thought of going in to work. My poor Urbane Lion didn’t know what to do! Anyway, I have had a great coaching session with Alex (handy to have a Someday coach in the family) which I will be posting about next Monday. With his help I identified what it was that was sucking the soul right out of me. I think I have a solution.

    @Brett – thank you for the personal email. It sense of community is so important in good times and in bad.

    @Alex – you rock!

    Urban Panther´s last blog post..I used to love online shopping

  13. Brett Legree says:

    @Panther,

    You are welcome – I agree, community is something that is priceless. We can all help each other.

    -Brett

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..viking fridays – the system is broken.

  14. Here’s a thought. I know I often stress and get upset when I have no plan and can’t see a way out. Sometimes finding that plan is the hardest thing to do. But when I do have that plan, it’s much, much easier to deal with the shit and go through the motions knowing that I’m moving ahead.

    I think Brett is a good example of this. He hates his job. And he has a plan, and I’ve seen him stop hating his job and simply doing it while moving forward. In fact, his complaints about his job have gone down considerably since his plan is in place – just because he knows he’s going to get somewhere and that this is temporary.

    I also agree with Brett that looking ahead and seeing the same as you have now is destructive – and thankfully, won’t come true 🙂 If so, I’d be seriously sobbing over many situations that felt permanent…

    … and weren’t.

    From every negative comes a positive. Find it. It’s there. 🙂

    James Chartrand – Men with Pens´s last blog post..Drive-by-Shooting Sundays: Writer Dad

  15. @James – I now have a plan!

    Urban Panther´s last blog post..I used to love online shopping

  16. Brett Legree says:

    @James,

    Thanks brother – I know I noticed it myself, in myself, but wasn’t sure if it had manifested itself externally.

    Having a plan, seeing the future, making the future real. I mean, I still have my days, but it’s hard not to smile most of the time, knowing I will get somewhere – and have fun doing it 🙂

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..viking fridays – the system is broken.

  17. Spain sounds wonderful. I visited in ’81 and ’82 and had some wild times. My neighbors spent a month there this summer and noted the refreshingly different perspectives on life, culture, and technology.

    I define myself as a writer, but the novel and e-book await finishing. Sigh. Maybe that’s why your blog came up on my radar today.

  18. Jay says:

    That is interesting that other cultures do not ask the cocktail party speciality “What do you do”? I find that people in America who do not believe they are thier jobs, get shunned by the masses who live this way. We are not our bank accounts, our jobs, or even the people we spend our quality time with; it is time more people realize this. Great Post!

    Jay´s last blog post..The Return of Jack and The Art of Anti-Niching

  19. Many of us put too much emphasis on what we do to earn a living. We forget that there are so many thousands of layers to our lives.

    I think the Spain has a great attitude. It seems that they live more in the moment.

    To them “What do you do?” means what are you doing right now. Their culture puts more emphasis on the now instead of their job.

    Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s last blog post..Day 8 of 30 – No Complaining

  20. Alex Fayle says:

    @Juliet & @Glen
    I wonder if this question is a part of English language culture no matter where in the world it is.

    Any readers in Australia/New Zealand who could answer that one?

    @Juliet
    I love your response to the question. I’m going to have to start using that one!

    @Glen
    As tempting it is to say “just wait until you’re older and have less energy” I’ll bite my tongue because I know many people much older than me who dedicate themselves to work the way you do. And love doing it.

    @Tim
    For me personally, teaching isn’t interesting. It’s a job that I don’t hate, but if I had the opportunity to not do it, I’d leave it in a moment. Many of my friends back in Canada are teachers and love it and it’s very interesting. For me it’s the least interesting part of my life. And people hear that when I mention it.

    @Brett
    As Tim said, too often the pyramid of value is often upside down… How frustrating, no?

    @James
    I thought about you when I was writing this post – you are an online entrepreneur inside and out. Your passion shines through and how awesome is it that you can make money doing it!

    @Dega
    Thanks for the recommendation – we don’t get HBO programs here in Spain. I’ll have to have a look around the web for it.

    @UP
    I’m glad I was around this afternoon to have a chat with you. And I’m extra glad that we were able to reframe your situation in a way that included your panther personality – it’ll be much easier to follow through on because it fits with who you are. Can’t wait until Monday to see what came out of today.

    @Renee
    I ended up being an entrepreneur for basically the same reasons – 4 years of applying for jobs and having only one interview. I ended up radically changing everything about my lifestyle to get out of the (for me) soul-sucking job. That type of radical change isn’t for everyone though. For example the UP and I came up with a different (possible) solution for her today – everyone has their own path – we can learn from each other, but the choices we make must fit with who we are.

  21. Alex Fayle says:

    @Everyone
    As always I love the conversations that go on while I’m away teaching (or purposefully have the computer turned off).

    @Laurel
    Yes the struggle is a hard one – and given our tendency to define ourselves by our jobs we end up losing all sense of perspective and balance. Of course that doesn’t happen with the readers of this blog who are least learning how to see the big picture if they haven’t already. 😉

    @Brett
    I told the UP something similar when we chatted this afternoon. I also made sure I was listening to my own advice, given my leanings towards impatience.

    @Tom
    In Spain (and in France) the ideal job to get is as a functionary (ie government job). The exams you have to write to get any sort of gov’t job are insane and can take up to two years, but then you’re guaranteed a job for life and that’s seen as the best job anyone can get – self employed service-oriented people are seen as a bit crazy – why take that kind of risk? Also the government isn’t as supportive – for example, if you’re self-employed you have to pay 300 euros a month to plug into the social safety net whether you’re earning or not. Big disincentive…

    @James
    Yes, it’s all about the plan and the avoidance of future pain, isn’t it? That’s one of the big things that people helped me with when I had my business meltdown last month – a plan with actions.

    @Lori
    The early 80s in Spain were wild – Spain had just gotten democracy and people went crazy with freedom. The funny thing is that many people I know work longer hours than many North Americans I know but they don’t complain – they just accept it and then get on with enjoying themselves when they’re not working.

    @Jay
    I was also wondering what this comes from – given that it seems to be an overall English culture thing, it must come from the UK – exported with the empire. And we all know how stratified and class conscious the UK used to be – maybe that’s where the concept of you are what you do (ie earn) comes from.

    @Karl
    When I teach English I find it interesting the different uses of tense. In English we use the present simple to talk at one level removed – the habitual or repeated and the present continuous for what is going on in the moment. The Spanish use the present to talk about not just the moment but the near future “I call you later” not “I’ll call you later.”

    That’s one thing teaching has really helped me do – become more aware of how language shapes thoughts.

  22. Hi Alex,

    And how true it is that we are labeled by our job description. Having grown up in Europe I can honestly say it is even worse (at least where I grew up). It’s a constant battle to acquire the so called “job status” along with others which of course is total nuts.

    I also realize that I have been groomed for this type of thinking far too well for my own liking as I too have become a work-a-holic.

    Thanks to my recent health breakdown I have come to understand that this existence is NOT about work, but about living.

    Monika Mundell´s last blog post..Do You Need A Freelance Writing Gig?

  23. Brett Legree says:

    @Alex,

    Yeah, the inverted pyramid. It seems to be like that for a reason – it links in with Parkinson’s theories (you never promote anyone more talented than yourself – keep them down low, where you can watch ’em). So to break out of this, go off and do your own thing.

    I was chatting with UP this afternoon too – you are a great brother, Alex, and a heck of a perceptive person.

    Brett Legree´s last blog post..viking fridays – the system is broken.

  24. @UP – BIG HUGS! It sounds like you’ve got things back under control now – aren’t brothers the best 😉 If Alex is anything like me, then he’ll have been on top of the moon to have been able to help out his sis in a moment of need.

    @Alex – I’m liking the reframe of the question. Since quitting work, whenever I’ve been asked what I do I’ve struggled to give an answer that I didn’t think would get weird looks or last 15 minutes! An answer like “I’m massively into personal development right now, which I pay for with computer consultancy” means that whatever the person’s interest I can represent myself truthfully and not feel like I’m tying myself to one job – oh hurrah for social lubricant!

    James | Dancing Geek´s last blog post..Identification, Self expression, Conformity and a rant

  25. Friar says:

    @Alex

    Here I am, late for the party.

    Yeah, we North Americans are screwed in the head about our work priorities. We need to chill out a bit more like the Europeans. (Just the fact that they have twice the vacation we do says a lot)

    There’s a quote from “Fight Club” from Tyler Durden (which I’m surprised that Brett hadn’t referrred to yet). “I am NOT my job”.

    EXACTLY!!! That’s just how I feel.

    @James
    Heh heh. You’ve noticed Brett complains less about his job. Well, that’s because we have our Thursday night Beer-Bitch-Session/Support Group. We get it all out of our system in one night, and that helps us focus for the rest of the week.

    Oh, and we’ve had some “Great” sessions. You should see what we talk about (unprintable here, in front of the ladies) 😉

    Friar´s last blog post..Friar’s Revised Zodiac Signs

  26. I like the sound of those Spaniards.

    I don’t define myself by my work. It’s just an income…although in the new year I have decided I would like to get my income from a more fulfilling source.

    But I get most of my fulfilment and pleasure from the things I dedicate myself to outside work – blogging, expanding my mind and the search for a little joy in every day.

    Frisky Librarian (formerly known as Glee Girl)´s last blog post..Another solo outing and dumplings and dimples

  27. Jeremy Day says:

    Hi Alex,

    Great post! The “what do you do” question always urks me. I hate answering it and have come up with some ingenius ways to answer the question. I sometimes give people a long paragraph of what I do in life and see how they react. If they are just speechless I tend to walk away. haha.

    One of the best compliments I ever got was from a friend who said he admires how I lead my life without being defined by what society thinks I do. I am my own person and I do what I want. That truly is something to strive for I think!

    Cheers,
    Jeremy

    Jeremy Day´s last blog post..10 Easy Steps to Create a Budget

  28. You know, it’s interesting because I know exactly what you mean… Whenever somebody asks: ¿En qué te dedicas? We jump past the job titles and start to talk about all the other day-to-day stuff and hobbies that make up our life. (I have a lot of family that’s from Mexico and friends from Columbia). That question usually comes first…and “de que trabajas” (or something to that effect) comes next.

    Ricardo Bueno´s last blog post..Yup…I’m Addicted to Social Media! You?

  29. sym says:

    I have recently sindicated to this blog, and it’s been curious for me finding out that you are living in Spain nowadays… for I’m spanish.
    I enjoy knowing how people from all over the world have different points of view about life, but it’s not often reading about how “foreigners” see the spanish kind of living.

    Sorry if my english is not perfect, I keep on learning and trying to improve it.

    Thank you for your website.

    sym´s last blog post..Reflexiones in the night

  30. Alex Fayle says:

    @Monika
    Yes, having a health issue suddenly show you what’s really important makes a big impression. My life slowed down significantly when my health took a bad downturn in the mid 1990s.

    @Friar
    When I tell people here that North Americans get two weeks vacation and consider themselves lucky, they look at me blankly and ask: How do you survive the year?

    @Frisky
    A former neighbour talked about that attitude all the time – a job was a job – it paid the bills. It didn’t have to be the colour of your parachute and all that. Your comment made me remember a book she mentioned that I’ve never gotten around to reading. It’s now on my wish list: Work to Live

    @Jeremy
    We’re very alike that way – I call it AlexWorld and I impose it upon the real world whenever the real world doesn’t work the way I want it to. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t… 😉

    @Ricardo
    Bienvenido! Very cool how like in English, this idea applies not just in Spain, but in Spanish culture all over. This is why I love language so much and why I like learning language. One learns different ways of thinking when learning new languages.

    @Sym
    Tu ingles es muy bueno – no como mi español… 😉

    Si, el punto de vista de gente que viene de otra cultura es muy interesante. He aprendido mucho sobre mi cultura por vivir aqui en españa.

  31. this is so true! i discovered when i had children that English people (like Americans) always ask ‘what do you do?’ but what they often mean is ‘does your job have any status/are you well-paid?’. As a stay at home mum i found it awful to watch people’s face glaze over when i admitted to not being in gainful employment, even though i was doing the toughest, most creative thing i’d ever done! Now i am trying to balance raising my children with photography, drawing, painting and writing and the biggest fight is lack of confidence and my guilt that as i’m self employed i don’t have a fancy job title/large pay packet. Yet i know i’m doing the right thing…
    Love the blog and this entry really resonated with me! thank you.

  32. I love the phrasing, “In what do you dedicate yourself?” It allows for a more expansive answer than just stating how you earn money and it makes us all more aware that we “dedicate” our time, so it makes sense to do so wisely.

    Cynthia Friedlob, The Thoughtful Consumer´s last blog post..The Angry Consumer: Black Friday Death at Wal-Mart

  33. This post really hit a nerve with people, Alex and that’s wonderful. I love the Spanish way of life and the different approach people have to what’s important over there. Australia is also very work focused and “What do you do?” is the first question a stranger will ask you.

    I also find that post womens lib, it is now seen as a lesser choice to stay home with your kids rather than keep forging ahead with a career. I used motherhood as a chance to create the kind of close family I have always dreamed of, as well as a chance for me to step off the career ladder and take stock of what I really want in life.

    In the first couple of years, though I was writing a novel and studying, I would say to people who asked that I was a mom. Man, their eyes would glaze over and some would actually turn away! It was as if I had nothing worthwhile to contribute anymore. Obviously my brain was gone and all that education and career success meant nothing – I had bailed out, become boring. It was very hard to take and I still struggle with it.

    For the past couple of years I have kept my foot in the career door by doing freelance copy writing on and off. I am lucky in that money I earn is for holidays and extras, it’s not essential. I could stop paid work altogether and some of my friends have suggested I should close that door and really commit 100% to the identity that I am a writer/novelist. But for some reason I never do. Lately, I’ve wondered if that’s because I copywrite to feel legitimate in society. So I can answer the dreaded job question, so people won’t think I’m a child obsessed surburbanite with nothing to say. It depresses me to even write this because I know I’m not boring and so do my friends and husband. So why the hell do I care what anyone else thinks? Usually I don’t, but in this area, for some reason I do. It’s all ego I guess. I was viewed as successful for so long by others, I don’t want that view to change, even if it’s meaningless.

    Thanks for making me think about this stuff. It’s probably time.

    Kelly

    Kelly@SHE-POWER´s last blog post..Intruder!

  34. Marelisa says:

    Hi Alex: I think a lot of people over-identify with their work to the point that if something should happen–losing their job, for example–they wouldn’t really know who they are anymore. Also, they might have a hard time leaving a job they dislike because it has practically become a part of who they are (I can’t leave this job, because then who would I be). A lot of people need to internalize what you say here: you are not your job.

  35. I’ll second Alex’s spanish comment about living in another culture. Everyone ought to do it. The eye-openers I got from living in France for 9 months were crazy weird.

    I’m going to try and find a way to get the question “What do you dedicate yourself to?” into a conversation and see what happens.

  36. Hello! or should I say ‘Hola, que tal?’ I was really happy I found this blog.
    My mother and I have a blog on skin care, but I recently wrote a post on how happiness affects your health (overall well-being), which inevitably affects your skin!
    (http://myfacialfacts.com/spf/are-you-happy/)
    What really attracted me to the post though is the fact that I’m half Spanish (on my mother’s side). My other half is American.
    Growing up in two countries, I can definitely attest to the difference in the way Americans and Spaniards live. Trust me! There is a HUGE difference. And although there are pluses and minuses in both cultures, the truth is that Spaniards are a lot more laid-back and they ENJOY LIFE. Even in something as simple as eating, Spaniards take their cuisine very seriously, and find it a time to be with friends and family, savoring every bite 🙂
    To check out our post:
    http://myfacialfacts.com/spf/are-you-happy/
    To your skin’s health (and to your happiness!)
    The Derma Divas.

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  37. I know this is late to join the conversation- but I just had to say- SO true, so true!

    After traveling around the world for a year, I became disgusted by the way we Americans ask “What do you do?” as our very first question…

    Personally, I’ve taken to asking, “What great thing happened to you today?” After the initial shock, people seem to smile and take a moment to reflect on something joyful or fun that happened.

    Thanks Alex for the reminder. Loved the post.

    Peace,
    Molly

    Molly @ Stratejoy´s last blog post..Slices of Life a Success!

  38. Alex Fayle says:

    @Sarah
    You could NOT pay me enough to be a mom. That’s definitely one of the hardest jobs – and it’s too bad that so many people (including too often the women who choose to do so) feel that the choice is a negative one.

    @Cynthia
    Yes, the wording is great. It’s one of the things I like about other languages – it forces me to rethink how I use English.

    @Kelly
    That’s too bad that you’ve had such a struggle with the acceptance. I think that anyone’s choices if they are made with self-awareness do no harm to others and makes them happy should be celebrated, not judged!

    @Marelisa
    It’s like people who lose interest in life when they retire because their whole life was their job. As much as I love doing what I do, I eagerly look forward to the day when I can choose to do nothing if I want to.

    @James DG
    You’ll have to let me know how that goes. I’d love to hear about people’s reactions.

    @Divas
    I grew up in a Canadian/British household, so really only had English culture as a guide. I’ve always envied a little bit people who grew up with two (or more) cultures in their family. It was one of the reasons I moved out of Toronto – to expose me to more cultures.

    @Molly
    You’re never late coming to a conversation here – you’re simply getting around to joining. 😉

    I love the question you ask – I’m not surprised people look at you in surprise, but what a great way to remind them of the good parts of the day.

  39. Celes says:

    Thanks Alex for your intriguing post 😀

    It’s the same where I live as well (in Singapore) – people define each other by their jobs, rather than what they stand for. In that aspect, many people are extremely fuzzy when it comes to what they want to do and end up dedicating all their lives to their work. Score of 1 for their employers, and 0 for themselves.

    Personally, I’m extremely passionate about personal growth and helping others achieve their highest potential 🙂 At the current moment I’m taking a break from work and doing this full time (the wonders of life!!). I definitely think that everyone should strive to identify a common ground between making a living/working and pursuing a passion; i.e. getting a job that is in full alignment with their passion. If such a job is not available, create it then! As long as you are creating value to the world, money will flow your way.

    Celes´s last blog post..How To Find Out If You Are Living Your Real Purpose Now

  40. Alex Fayle says:

    @Celes
    Welcome and thanks for the comment. Interesting to know that it’s not just English-language culture that thinks this way. I wonder what other cultures do…

  41. Celes says:

    The amazing thing is, I thought the association of work with one’s life originated from the Chinese/Asian culture and focus on being industrious, collectivism and loyalty to one’s company/country. Definitely an eye opener to know that this is the case as well in non-Asian countries!

    Celes´s last blog post..How To Find Out If You Are Living Your Real Purpose Now

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  44. […] Dedicate Yourself to Life, Not Work – Ok, I have saved the best for last. Alex has become a friend of mine fairly quickly. We have some things we hope to work on in the near future, but I have to admit that I am fairly impressed with his blog. Its called Someday Syndrome. The idea is that we all say we are going to do things someday, but then never do. Alex is urging us all to make someday today. When people talk about fitting into a niche Alex has certainly settled into his and I think its one of the best sub-niches to be in in the personal development community. While my blog is fairly broad to fit into a sub-niche I must admit that I am trying to do the same thing as Alex. Get people to take action today! This article is one of the best. The 43 comments by themselves speak about how much conversation this post generated. That is wonderful for a fairly new, yet rapidly growing blog! How can such a short article generate so much conversation? I guess you got to read it to find out! […]

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