I love the attitude of this week’s interview subject. His blog’s tagline is Stop Sucking and Live a Life of Abundance. With a kick-ass line like that of course I had to find out whether Hunter ever lived a sucky abundance-free life.
Who: Hunter Nuttall of HunterNuttall.com
Hunter is a guy who thinks life can be better than we’ve been led to believe, and he’s on a quest to stop sucking and live a life of abundance.
Name one moment in your life when you threw a pity party for yourself and the reasons why you felt you weren’t able to achieve your goals. Were you feeling stuck? Had you felt you failed? What wasn’t working in your life?
The nice thing about pity parties is that at the end of the night, the party’s over. But I seem to be taking a multi-year cruise on the S.S. Pity Party, where the party never ends.
I try to stay on the side of the ship where all the positive passengers hang out. I don’t like being around people who say “I’m not supposed to be on this ship. This isn’t fair. I’m going to complain to somebody.” I’d much rather be around people who say “I’m not supposed to be on this ship, but I know I’m the only one who can get myself off it. So while I may not be thrilled with my time here, I’m going to keep working on my plan to get off.”
Specifically, what I feel stuck in is the work force. After having several different jobs over the last ten years, I’m pretty sure that I’m just not cut out to be an employee. I don’t really have a problem with developing software, but I don’t like being paid for punching a time card, I don’t like having limited control over my work, I don’t like dressing up or commuting, and I don’t like having to work on a fixed schedule. So I’m trying to find a way out.
That’s what’s not working for me, but as long as I keep trying to fix it, I haven’t failed yet.
Even our lowest moments fulfill a need in us or express our desires. When you threw yourself that pity party, what did you hope to gain? What need did you fulfill?
I disagree with all the people who say we should strive to be happy all the time, regardless of our circumstances. If something’s not working for you, be honest with yourself, and work on fixing it. Trying to drown your troubles in happiness actually isn’t much healthier than trying to drown them in alcohol.
Don’t get me wrong, most people are more negative than they should be, and certainly we should generally try to look on the bright side of things. But acknowledging our real feelings instead of putting on a front makes us human. If you’re perfectly happy with everything no matter what happens, then why even bother getting out of bed in the morning?
By having a pity party now and then, you’re giving yourself permission to say, “This isn’t what I want. Something’s wrong, and I need to fix it.” Nothing wrong with that, but the problem many people have is staying at the pity party too long, not facing the responsibility of getting themselves out.
Tell us what you did to break up the pity party. What actions did you decide to take? Did someone help you buoy your spirits? Push you along?
The last company I worked at warned us that they would in all likelihood go out of business. While everyone frantically looked for whatever job they could find, I decided that I needed to take a mini-retirement. It’s such a dumb system we have, where you spend the best years of your life working and then maybe you get to retire just in time to die.
So I took four months off, and it was amazing. I was still working, but I was working on writing blog posts and ebooks and researching different paths I could take. I was having fun with my work, and also taking time to enjoy my life.
I haven’t been able to nail down a specific plan for sustaining this indefinitely, although I’ve been doing much better with affiliate marketing lately. I can see my online income paying the bills someday, and that’s what I really need. Moral support is nice, but I’m more interested in fixing the problem than in getting people to be my cheerleader.
Can you look back on that moment and tell us how you felt when you did decide to take action? What results came about from your decision to take charge and move on?
The biggest risk I took was making the financially stupid decision of taking four months off work. I was uncomfortable with that decision because I’m well aware of how much it will cost me in the long run. Plus, I had no health insurance. (I’m going back to work on Monday, so I just have to stay out of danger until then.)
The only reason I could do that was because I’ve always kept my expenses fairly low and built up some savings, instead of trying to keep up with the Joneses. That’s because security has always been a priority for me. Sure, I’d like to have nice things, but I won’t go into debt for them.
Even though this retirement stint was temporary, I’ve learned that working from home on my own thing is definitely what I want to do. For now, I have to go back to work on Monday, but that’s going to be much easier to do after having had this time off.
Everyone has a Someday problem hiding deep inside, even little ones. What variety of the Someday Syndrome do you currently harbor? What would you like to achieve but haven’t yet?
I’m mainly affected by the “Someday My Ship Will Come In” variety. My mind is definitely more in the future than the present. I have no doubt the future will be terrific, but to improve things in the present I need to figure out how to make money without a job.
Examining your Someday Syndrome problem, what are you currently doing to resolve it and eliminate it from your life?
I mentioned before that I’ve been doing better with affiliate marketing lately. I want to keep growing my audience by getting better at providing content they crave. At the same time, I plan to learn more about copywriting and sales so I can better connect my audience with the affiliate offers they need.
My goal is to combine the best aspects of blogging and internet marketing, making a good living while also doing something that makes a difference in people’s lives.
Many people suffer the same problems you do. You’re not alone, and neither are they. What would you tell people in your situation right now to help them avoid what you’re going through?
This is the question I’m always thinking about. I don’t have a good answer yet, but if they subscribe to my blog, maybe we can figure it out together.
If you could ask for one thing, right now, to help you overcome your Someday Syndrome, what type of help would you ask for?
The biggest thing I struggle with is being unsure of what to do, and constantly shifting my focus between different things while I try to figure out the right direction to head in.
So I think what could help the most is a mentor who could tell me exactly what to do to achieve financial independence as quickly as possible. For example, “Call this number. This guy is looking for .NET and SQL Server developers for a long term contract, they pay $150 an hour, and you can work as many hours as you want. This is the easiest way, so just focus on that, and drop everything else.” Then I could just do that for a while, and then be free to do whatever I want.
But I think a mentor like that would be really hard to come by. Something more realistic that could help me would be an A-list affiliate for either of my ebooks: “The Personality Puzzle” and “Greatness Without Genies.” They haven’t reached enough of the people who need them yet, but someone with a big mailing list could change that and bring a lot more people into my tribe.