- Someday Lesson: Don’t let the fear of looking foolish or being hurt destroy the benefits of belonging to a community.
But that’s not all that fear does – fear keeps us isolated, keeps us from opening up and sharing.
Joanna Young over at Confident Writing spent March talking about community and yesterday something occurred to me: fear destroys communities in so many different ways.
Here in Spain under the Franco dictatorship neighbours could denounce each other for speaking Basque, Catalan or Gallego. Not a great way to build community. In the UK and the United States fear led people to call each other witches. And back in the time of the Spanish Inquisition fear led the Church to do a lot of horrific things to a lot of people.
In more modern times especially since 9-11, fear has dominated Western culture with fear of terrorists and fear of violence cutting everyone off from one another. There’s a huge horror film industry built around fear and so many popular television shows exploit and increase our sense of insecurity about the world.
On the personal front, fear of making a fool out of ourselves and fear of fucking up keep us quiet and locked up inside our heads.
As Karen Swim over on Words for Hire did today, let’s celebrate foolishness instead of fearing it. Foolishness has led to many great discoveries at global and personal levels. I know that if I hadn’t have been foolish enough to leave a secure life in Toronto, I wouldn’t be where I am now living with the man I love doing what I love for a living.
I invite you therefore to break away from your fear by opening up and communicating and trusting people to accept us and help us in our journeys. I invite you to get involved in building a community.
And right here on Someday Syndrome you have several ways to create a community:
- Comment – tell us all how you’re doing on your own Someday Journey and how your Journey is the same as/different from the Journeys talked about in the blog’s posts.
- Engage other commenters – ask questions of other commenters, share similar stories. Someone else has certainly gone through your current situation. Get the benefit of their experiences.
- Chat in the forum – you don’t have to wait to see a specific topic appear on the blog. The Someday-Busting Conversations happening over on the forum can help you with your Somedays no matter what’s being discussed here on the blog.
- Provide a guest post – have your own take on Someday Syndrome? Share your stories here on the blog. Contact me to find out how.
- Be a Someday Interviewee – I’m always looking out for new interview subjects. Even if you’re still chasing after your Somedays, I’m certain you have a great story to tell that others will identify with. Send me a note and I’ll line you up with an interview.
- Invite me to guest post – no matter what the topic of your blog, I’m certain there’s a Someday angle to be found. I’d love to share in your community with a Someday take on your blog.
- Get personalized help – not feeling up to sharing your Somedays with the world? That’s okay. You don’t have to. I’m also available one-on-one or in small groups to help you rid your life of Somedays and start living your dreams.