- Someday Lesson: Dreams come and go – we have to make active choices about them or run the risk of losing out on what we really want.
Last week I got tagged in a meme: 7 Little Things You Might Not Have Wanted To Know About Me by Sheri at Serene Journey. Of course, I couldn’t do it straight on – I just have to do it with a Someday-twist.
So here goes: Seven Little Somedays You Didn’t Know About Me.
1. In high school, I wanted to be a go-go dancer
Yes, that’s right. I loved dancing and I loved clubbing (actually still do even though I don’t go out often). If it hadn’t been for the fact that I was majorly resistant to working out and getting a buff body, I totally would have followed up on this one.
2. I almost applied to a music degree in university
Other than mathematics, my best subject in high school was music and I seriously considered applying, but I knew I was a technical rather than intuitive musician – I didn’t feel the music. I could have become a competent music teacher, but at the time my ego said teaching wasn’t enough.
3. I chickened out of applying for a Creative Writing BFA
I almost didn’t include this one in the list as writing is my passion and it’s not something I ever really let go of. However, this fear-based lack of action remains one of the big regrets in my life. Over the intervening 20 years though I’ve gained a whole lot of different perspectives. There are many paths to the same destination. I ended up taking the scenic rather than the direct route.
4. I planned on doing my PhD in Celtic Studies
Specifically Pictish Studies (pre-Christian Scotland). I almost applied for my PhD in Edinburgh (one of my favourite cities in the world) but decided that a) I didn’t like research enough b) Edinburgh is dark from 3pm to 9am in the winter and c) job prospects would have been severely limited.
5. After university, I accepted then declined a job teaching English in Portugal
My idea was to spend life teaching and writing in the countryside, but then I got sick and decided that I would rather be in a country where I could communicate with doctors freely.
6. When I was 29, I almost started an adoption process
The alarm on my biological clock went off and I had a sudden desire to raise a child, but as I was single and living in chronic pain, I decided it wasn’t a practical decision. Within a year the alarm turned itself off and now I have no desire to raise children at all. Somehow I feel I dodged a bullet on this one.
7. I considered emigrating to Australia
Before launching my Professional Organizing business, I seriously looked into moving to Australia. Unfortunately I was too old for the Commonwealth quick-visa program and didn’t have the right job skills to find a sponsoring employer.
I like looking back at the things I ended up not doing because I can play a bit of what-if and imagine my life if I had followed through on any of them, but more importantly I can evaluate the choices I did make to get where I am now and see how for me, I took the right path even though it led me through fear, insecurity and some really bad times.
As usual when I play these meme games, I’m not going to tag anyone specifically, but if you’d like to join in, I’d love to hear about it.