7 Little Somedays You Didn’t Know About Me

  • Someday Lesson: Dreams come and go – we have to make active choices about them or run the risk of losing out on what we really want.

Last week I got tagged in a meme: 7 Little Things You Might Not Have Wanted To Know About Me by Sheri at Serene Journey. Of course, I couldn’t do it straight on – I just have to do it with a Someday-twist.

So here goes: Seven Little Somedays You Didn’t Know About Me.

1. In high school, I wanted to be a go-go dancer
Yes, that’s right. I loved dancing and I loved clubbing (actually still do even though I don’t go out often). If it hadn’t been for the fact that I was majorly resistant to working out and getting a buff body, I totally would have followed up on this one.

2. I almost applied to a music degree in university
Other than mathematics, my best subject in high school was music and I seriously considered applying, but I knew I was a technical rather than intuitive musician – I didn’t feel the music. I could have become a competent music teacher, but at the time my ego said teaching wasn’t enough.

3. I chickened out of applying for a Creative Writing BFA
I almost didn’t include this one in the list as writing is my passion and it’s not something I ever really let go of. However, this fear-based lack of action remains one of the big regrets in my life. Over the intervening 20 years though I’ve gained a whole lot of different perspectives. There are many paths to the same destination. I ended up taking the scenic rather than the direct route.

4. I planned on doing my PhD in Celtic Studies
Specifically Pictish Studies (pre-Christian Scotland). I almost applied for my PhD in Edinburgh (one of my favourite cities in the world) but decided that a) I didn’t like research enough b) Edinburgh is dark from 3pm to 9am in the winter and c) job prospects would have been severely limited.

5. After university, I accepted then declined a job teaching English in Portugal
My idea was to spend life teaching and writing in the countryside, but then I got sick and decided that I would rather be in a country where I could communicate with doctors freely.

6. When I was 29, I almost started an adoption process
The alarm on my biological clock went off and I had a sudden desire to raise a child, but as I was single and living in chronic pain, I decided it wasn’t a practical decision. Within a year the alarm turned itself off and now I have no desire to raise children at all. Somehow I feel I dodged a bullet on this one.

7. I considered emigrating to Australia
Before launching my Professional Organizing business, I seriously looked into moving to Australia. Unfortunately I was too old for the Commonwealth quick-visa program and didn’t have the right job skills to find a sponsoring employer.

I like looking back at the things I ended up not doing because I can play a bit of what-if and imagine my life if I had followed through on any of them, but more importantly I can evaluate the choices I did make to get where I am now and see how for me, I took the right path even though it led me through fear, insecurity and some really bad times.

As usual when I play these meme games, I’m not going to tag anyone specifically, but if you’d like to join in, I’d love to hear about it.

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22 thoughts on “7 Little Somedays You Didn’t Know About Me

  1. Who would have thought that a simple meme could make such a great point for me. Must be the Someday-twist. πŸ™‚

    “I like looking back at the things I ended up not doing because I can play a bit of what-if and imagine my life if I had followed through on any of them, but more importantly I can evaluate the choices I did make to get where I am now and see how for me, I took the right path even though it led me through fear, insecurity and some really bad times.”

    This paragraph really brought home the thought that I need to quit looking at the the things that didn’t work out so well in my life as just steps to get where I need to be…and quit looking at them as I failed x amount of times.

    Amy Mommaerts´s last blog post..Free Your Mind and the Rest Will Follow

  2. Lisa says:

    Whoa, Alex, I gotcha here too.

    1. See comment on FB.

    2. Same but reverse — I’m intuitive rather than technical. Took lessons again last year, until my wrist started not liking so many daily writing deadlines. If only my fingers could keep up with my heart.

    3. Got my app in (truly horrifying essay and Q&A process) at UCBerkeley, but ended up going another direction.

    4. Never got quite THAT serious, but I’ve taken intro Gaeilge a couple of times. Dia duit, conas ta tu?

    5. We may end up doing this in Europe in a couple more years.

    6. Ok, dude. You got me there, no adoptions. I did have two biologically.

    7. If my husband had his way …

    I hear I’ll be seeing you in Campfire again soon. Yeah!

    Lisa´s last blog post..Calculating food choices

  3. You can be a go-go dancer whenever you choose and appreciate music. Probably if you’d actually “studied” these it would have taken away the magic and made it seem too much like work.

    As for writing, you took the scenic route. You see more scenes, you have more stuff to write about. It isn’t the destination, it is the journey.

    I agree with the Edinburgh & Portugal decisions. You can’t really LIVE in the dark or when you’re sick.

    Yes, you dodged the bullet on the kids. I’ve got two. It is a FULL time job!

    I’ll eventually write my own things – someday?

  4. Marelisa says:

    Hi Alex: Those are interesting somedays πŸ™‚ I took karate for about a month about four years ago. I really wish I had stuck with it.

    Marelisa´s last blog post..Creating In the Dark – Your Sacred Dance

  5. Melinda says:

    Hmmmm reading through again…

    If you had adopted a child, you’d be in a very different place in your life. I suspect that you would still love that child and would enjoy being a parent – however because that didn’t happen you’re now happy with where you’re at being childless. Does that make sense?

    I think you would have found a different sense of fulfillment in being a parent, to what you’re feeling now.

    and any time you want to come over to Australia, give me a yell! πŸ™‚

    Melinda´s last blog post..Do You Have Permission to Market?

  6. Friar says:

    Heh heh. I can picture it…Alex as a Chipendale dancer!

    Don’t laugh, though. I hear those guys make good money. πŸ˜‰

  7. Alex Fayle says:

    @Melinda
    I too studied sign-language for a while but then I got really down on life due to a job I hated and ended up dropping it. I loved signing!

    @Amy
    Yay to hitting home and helping! That is exactly why I blog and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

    @Lisa
    Sounds like we live quite similar lives (or at least have similar attitudes/thoughts) – then again probably many writers lead similar lives, eh? As for my Gaelic – I only remember enough words to use as computer passwords. It’s been over 15 years since I’ve studied the language.

    @Jacki
    Those are my exact sentiments about each of those things. πŸ˜‰

    @Marelisa
    Something else similar will likely catch your interest and then you’ll be passionate about it. I was passionate about indoor rock climbing for a few years, now it’s running. These things come and go in cycles I think.

    @Melinda (again)
    You’re totally right about the children. If I had done it I would have had a totally different life, but I would have been fulfilled in different but equal ways. I say “phew” now only because I didn’t choose it. If I had, I’d be saying “phew” to not having missed out on the opportunity to be a parent.

    @Friar
    The Chippendales never did anything for me – they were too slick and shiny. πŸ˜‰

  8. Oh, those are the best answers ever – that’s so cool, look at everything you considered doing! That right there is huge – you were going to try, you believed you could, and you didn’t mind doing something different than what others were doing.

    That’s friggin’ awesome. Way to go!

    James Chartrand – Men with Pens´s last blog post..Are You Forgetting to Network With Your Friends?

  9. Alex Fayle says:

    @James
    Being different has never been a problem for me. My mother says I started asserting my independence while still in the womb. πŸ˜‰

  10. Hi Alex! This is a great spin on the 7 things. So many unique and wonderful things there it’s awesome! Thanks for letting us know a little bit more about you πŸ™‚

    Sherri (Serene Journey)´s last blog post..It’s All In HOW You Say It

  11. J.D. Meier says:

    Australia has such an appeal.

    It’s one of those places that’s just too cool in terms of culture and mystique. I’m a fan of Koalas. I haven’t been to Australia yet, but I’ve had lots of friends from there and I love the stories.

    J.D. Meier´s last blog post..Overachievement Book Nuggets

  12. Sandra L. says:

    Alex–I have been considering the MFA for years. Thing is, a) It costs a lot of money; and b) I have heard so many people say it’s not really the way to be a writer. That it’s kind of a waste of time.

    I wonder if b) is true. I would love to hear from some people who have MFAs in creative writing and get their real opinions.

    Sandra L.´s last blog post..I have nothing to say…

  13. Rori Raye says:

    Absolutely love the “Someday” – totally brilliant. And I know we’ve connected because Edinburgh is one of my favorite cities also. (I was there for festival long, long ago – where I saw Ian McKellen do Richard II and Edward II (Marlowe) back-to-back – still have the program). Will be visiting here often. Can’t wait to see the procrastination help. I think it’s so amazing that I can be so utterly productive, but ignore the small things so easily.Sincerely, Rori Raye

    Rori Raye´s last blog post..He Doesn’t Want You To Date Other Men – But He’s Living Day To Day…

  14. I love the honesty. πŸ˜‰ I almost went to school for music too…

    Marc and Angel Hack Life´s last blog post..When Our Stories Hold Us Back

  15. Alex Fayle says:

    @Sheri
    Thanks for tagging me – I almost never do these memes, but this one was way fun!

    @JD
    There is a whole mystique about Australia, isn’t there? The distance from the rest of English culture makes it so exotic.

    @Sandra
    What I’ve heard about any writing program (whether it’s fiction or screenplays) the best part is the connections and opportunities you hear about. Writing itself can be learned in many ways, but the programs provide more about the industry – or at least that’s my impression.

    @Rori
    Welcome! And I agree completely – some days I’m insanely productive and yet that productivity often comes because I’m actively ignoring something else. πŸ˜‰

    @Marc & Angel
    Thanks – I’m pretty much and open book and love sharing, so the honesty comes easily to me.

  16. Melinda says:

    Exotic? Ummm, sure, that’s us Aussies – exotic… LOL! I’ve heard us called a lot of things but Exotic is a new one!

    It’s a pretty amazing country we have here though, totally unlike any other country in the world. Really really worth visiting sometime!

    Melinda´s last blog post..Do You Have Permission to Market?

  17. MB says:

    I just found your blog and I’m hooked. I have loads of ‘somedays’ and feel that new ones crop up everyday. So, I definitely need some guidance and will be back.

    I love your meme list, especially since I’ve lived in both Edinburgh and Australia…interesting.

    I agree with the commenter Melinda about Australia…very much worth visiting. They call it “the lucky country” b/c they feel lucky to live there and with good reason in my opinion. Lovely place. Lovely people.

    And Edinburgh, well…it’s just a special place, isn’t it?

    I might have to do this meme on my blog too. Fun!

    MB´s last blog post..Recipe Roundup: Easy Quiche + Others

  18. Alex Fayle says:

    @Melinda
    Watched Australia this weekend. Wow – I want to go to Australia even more now!

    @MB
    Welcome! And I totally get what you say about somedays cropping up every day. I get excited by new ideas all the time and I have to control myself or I end up with 10 started projects and nothing finished. πŸ˜‰

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  20. Once again, you have got me to look inside myself. I came up with things that even my husband didn’t know, after nearly 20 years together!

    Janet Barclay´s last blog post..Seven Dreams that Have Come and Gone

  21. Alex Fayle says:

    @Janet
    That’s awesome! My parents say the same thing – that after 51 years they still learn new things about each other. Glad I could help!

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