Starting Life Someday-Free: Bud Hennekes Interview

I love doing interviews with young people. Bud is just finishing high school and yet he has a better grasp on the whole Someday-Busting thing than many people twice his age. Of course, I felt the same way back at age 17, but I let fear block me from actually following through on any of my dreams. Reading Bud’s interview I doubt that Bud will allow himself to get blocked in the same way.

Bud Hennekes with his parentsWho: Bud Hennekes of A Boundless World
Bud is a person who’s passionate about living life to the fullest, awakening people to their true potential along the way.

Name one moment in your life when you threw a pity party for yourself and the reasons why you felt you weren’t able to achieve your goals. Were you feeling stuck? Had you felt you failed? What wasn’t working in your life?
I stopped throwing myself pity parties long ago. When I was a freshman and sophomore in high school I ran cross country for my high school team. I was the king of pity parties.

Whenever I had a bad race I would always throw myself a pity party hoping that those around would feel sorry for me. I threw pity parties but no one came.

It took a while, but I eventually realized that pity parties did more harm than good. You see when you throw pity parties for yourself, you reinforce the negative thoughts that made you feel down in the first place. Never wallow in your own mistakes, rather accept them and move on.

Too often we put way to much pressure on ourselves consequently remain miserable. There’s no rule in life saying we can’t fail. There’s no rule in life saying we can’t come up short.

When you make a mistake accept that you made a mistake. When you feel bad accept that you feel bad. Don’t continually wallow in your own shortcomings, instead embrace each and every moment you have.

Even our lowest moments fulfill a need in us or express our desires. When you threw yourself that pity party, what did you hope to gain? What need did you fulfill?
When we throw pity parties for ourselves we are often under the illusion that this will make everything better. But in reality all pity parties do is prolong the recovery time it takes to return to our optimal state.

Pity parties accomplish nothing. It’s OK to feel bad. It’s OK to feel down.

It’s not OK to continually wallow in our own shortcomings for then we allow the negative emotions to dictate our life.

Feel your emotions and let them go.

When I regularly threw pity parties for myself I hoped that someone would come along and make me feel better. The truth is the only one who can truly make you feel better is yourself. Yes friends and family can lend you support ( I don’t know where I’d be without it.) but you are in control.

You don’t need to throw a pity party to feel better. All you need is redirect your thoughts. 🙂

Tell us what you did to break up the pity party. What actions did you decide to take? Did someone help you buoy your spirits? Push you along?
Whenever I am feeling down I try to accept my feeling rather than resist them. The more you resist your emotions the stronger they become.

We will all have moments in our life when we aren’t at our best but we must learn to be able to redirect our negative thoughts into a more positive manner.

The worst thing we can do is allow your negative emotions to become a part of you. When your feeling down it is essential that you seek encouragement from your friends and family. They want to help you.

I also spend a great amount of time searching for some motivational material. When your motivated you’d be surprised at how quickly your party ends.

Can you look back on that moment and tell us how you felt when you did decide to take action? What results came about from your decision to take charge and move on?
Whenever I fee like I’m about to throw a pity party for myself I close my eyes and take several deep breathes. I ask “why am I feeling like this?” This allows me to regain some control of my emotions.

Often times we act on impulse which prolongs the time we are feeling down.

When your feeling sad or depressed slow down. Take a moment to just be. Close your eyes and take several deep breathes. Simply doing so will have a tremendous effect on your mood.

One of my favorite things to do when I’m having a bad day, is to take out a piece of paper and write down all the things I”m grateful for. I learned this method from money of the most successful individuals today.

I remember specifically one day I took out the piece of paper and I couldn’t think of ANYTHING I was grateful for, so I wrote down “I’m thankful for being able to breathe.”

This really hit me as just the gift of breathing is something to be thankful for.

Sure life is often far from perfect but when you really think about it, it’s great to be alive.

Everyone has a Someday problem hiding deep inside, even little ones. What variety of the Someday Syndrome do you currently harbor? What would you like to achieve but haven’t yet?
One of my major flaws is that I continually put off happiness. “When this is done I’ll be happy” I often say yet in reality I’m simply succumbing to the happiness illusion.

The key to being happy is to be experience the moment now. I have improved in this area tremendously over the years but I still have a ways to go. As I continue to put effort into living in the moment I have found myself to be much more happier. Happiness isn’t experienced tomorrow but rather right now.

Examining your Someday Syndrome problem, what are you currently doing to resolve it and eliminate it from your life?
Right now I’m making it my highest priority to do the things I love. All too often people fill their lives with people and things they can’t stand, then they wonder why they are miserable.

It is my belief that life is meant to be enjoyed. When I fill my days with things I love, living becomes effortless. When I choose to fill my day with things I dread life becomes a chore.

Obviously there will be things you don’t necessarily enjoy, yet it is important to make a conscious effort to keep those things to a minimum.

Many people suffer the same problems you do. You’re not alone, and neither are they. What would you tell people in your situation right now to help them avoid what you’re going through?
One of the greatest problems of today’s world is we all think we are alone. The reality is that we are all connected. I am aware that may come off as a bit new age but that is a belief I have been happy to adopt.

Too often we think that our problems are unique when in fact people have been through the exact situation you have.

When we realize that our problems are not unique it becomes easier to deal with them. If you are in a place in your life where you don’t want to be, there are people out there who want to help you. Realize that you are not alone.

Be grateful. Be happy. Time heals all pain.

If you could ask for one thing, right now, to help you overcome your Someday Syndrome, what type of help would you ask for?
I would just like to know that all the effort I’m putting in to making this world a better place will pay off. Too be honest I know without a doubt that it will, but there’s always that part in the back of your mind saying ” What if?”

While there is a chance it won’t I don’t have the time or energy to waste on playing the what if game. As long as I continue to put forth my best effort in helping humanity for the better my vision will manifest. Sure I may not know the exact path but I will reach my goals.

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9 thoughts on “Starting Life Someday-Free: Bud Hennekes Interview

  1. Andy Hayes says:

    Wow – how powerful coming from someone so young! I’m thankful we’re all so lucky to get to hang out here at Someday Syndrome.

    Not sure where you find these interviewees Alex but keep up the fab work.
    .-= Andy Hayes´s last blog ..If You Can’t Go…A List of Travel Alternatives =-.

  2. I’m both extremely impressed with Bud’s maturity and… to be honest… a bit envious that it’s taken me 20 years longer than Bud to get close to where he’s starting from.

    I salute you, Bud! You’re going to have a most rewarding life, I bet.

  3. So young, so much potential, and the fact that you are realising your potential so early is outstanding. Thanks for the interview and I wish the best of luck with whatever it is that you do with your adult life. With the attitude that you have, it’s going to be great.

    And kudos to your parents for bringing you up with that outlook on life!

    Yeah, I’m jealous too that it’s taken me *mumble* years more to come to the same realisations. However, one point that I take from Alex is that it doesn’t matter ‘when’ we come to that point, it’s the fact that we have got to the realisation that is important.
    .-= Melinda | WAHM Biz Builder´s last blog ..Making Your To-Do List a Habit =-.

  4. I am so impressed – I was spending more time dodging curfew in high school when I should have been working on something like this!

    Bud – keep it up! Absolutely love your inspiration and know that you’re helping change the lives of many!
    .-= Laura Cococcia´s last blog ..Blogs That Are Changing The World of Words: The Art of Nonconformity =-.

  5. “Why am I feeling this?” is a great question that we should all ask ourselves on a regular basis. When we get in touch with what is causing our emotional upheaval, we have a quicker recovery.

    The breath is the best place to start building awareness. When we are breathing slow we are usually calm. When we breathe fast we are usually upset. It’s working with this that allows us to understand our emotions.

    Great Interview!
    .-= Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s last blog ..What do I do if I’m unhappy at Work? =-.

  6. Alex Fayle says:

    @Andy
    Glad you enjoy the interviews – your turn is coming up soon!

    @Catherine
    I hear you on the envy, but yeah good for him, eh?

    @Melinda
    I’m certain being so self-aware so young Bud is going to accomplish a lot of things in his life.

    @Laura
    I’m not going to mention what I was doing at Bud’s age as I doubt most of it was very legal. 😉

    @Karl
    It is a great question and one that’s hard to remember when we’re in the middle of whatever emotion wants to take over.

  7. J.D. Meier says:

    I particularly like the point on connection.

    I’m a fan of pairing up and teaming up. I think the key is the skills you bring to the table and your unique value. If you think of the world as one big system, then it’s important to know your unique value in the system and nature actually supports you (playing to your strengths and giving your best where you’ve got your best to give.)
    .-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..There is No Shortage of Time =-.

  8. Bud Hennekes says:

    I would just like to thank Alex for giving me the opportunity to interview. I enjoyed crafting my responses! Thanks for the comments guys. 🙂

  9. Alex Fayle says:

    @JD
    Yes, I find connecting with others on the same path really helps – especially by sharing in skills to round out your needs.

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