Waiting for Life: Introducing (some of) the New Lab Rats

ToNG?! on flickr.comIn this, the fourth round of Lab Rat experiments here on the Someday Syndrome blog, we’re going to get a whole lot more scientific and objective. Up until this point the Lab Rats’ progress has been a subjective thing with little concrete measurement.

Not so this time around.

This time the Lab Rats have the entire maze right from the start – the Someday My Ship Will Come In ebook – and they’ll be measuring their own progress all along the way. They’ll each state what their current challenge is, what they hope to get out of the experiments I carry out on them, and why they are willing to submit themselves to the public view while running the maze.

Each of the Lab Rats in stuck in some way. In fact, they’re so stuck they don’t even see the path to their dreams, let alone being able to start moving on it.

They’re waiting for their ship to come in carrying the answer to getting unstuck, but since dreams come only from within, waiting for an external thing to bring the news of our dreams just means waiting without end.

By going through the Someday My Ship Will Come In ebook which includes a series of short lessons and thought-provoking exercises with worksheets, the Lab Rats will learn step by step by getting unstuck and find the path to their dreams.

So let’s get started with introducing some of the Lab Rats. This week you’ll get to know two of them Alessio and Horatio, then next week you’ll get to know the other two.

Waiting for the Ideal Life

Alessio has a classic case of Someday My Ship Will Come In. Without actually doing any work to move forward towards his dreams, he somehow thought that his ideal life would just happen to him or that randomly enough time would suddenly materialize allowing him to discover his passion.

He works long hours and has very little “me time” so he tends to put things off until some magical moment when everything is just right. But of course, that time never comes.

Not surprisingly, Alessio wants the Lab Rat program to give him advice and guidance to determine where he wants to go and what the path getting there might look like. Specifically he’s looking for practical tools that will help him on the journey rather than giving him a quick fix.

Aside from the accountability that comes from doing the exercises in public, Alessio (rightly) imagines that he’s not the only one in the position he finds himself in – alone, unsure of whom to talk to or even where to start. By putting himself out there in public he hopes to show others in the same situation that they can make the changes to get unstuck.

Waiting for Life to Start

Given that Horatio is an academic, with its many (many many) years in school and few secure tenure positions. Pretty much his entire adult life Horatio has been waiting for his career to start. Add in the competition, long hours and relatively poor pay, a career in academia or research remains for many people a Someday always just out of reach.

For him, the worst was overhearing a colleague say (sympathetically) “He hasn’t had the career he should have.” The truth of that statement galled Horatio.

While recognizing that sometimes putting aside short term gratification is necessary in long term dreams (like my own around being a published author), Horatio feels that maybe he’s put aside too many of his other dreams, such as a novel, maintaining his body in good form and travel, financial planning and family.

The habit of waiting is strong in Horatio, so he joined the Lab Rat program to help break that habit and create results through action. He wants to stop waiting and to start living. As well, on a smaller scale he always would like to become more positive about work and shift his view from enduring it to enjoying it.

As for his public exposure, Horatio hopes to put off the procrastination that has had him in its grip for years. By publicly stating his progress, he feels he will commit to actually following through rather than putting action off yet again.

Do you see yourself in either of these two?

I see bits of myself in both. I can’t wait for next week when we’ll meet the other Lab Rats and find out what brought them into the maze.

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10 thoughts on “Waiting for Life: Introducing (some of) the New Lab Rats

  1. I’m looking forward to reading about the Rats’ journey!
    .-= Catherine Cantieri, Sorted´s last blog ..Land of the free, home of the Sorted =-.

  2. Eliza says:

    Hurray! New lab rats to put through their paces. I really like the idea this time around of showing measurable progress. I know, from personal experience, that working through Someday My Ship Will Come In produces tangible results, and it will be great for the rest of the world to see it. And no, that wasn’t blatant sibling cheer leading. If it didnt’ work, I wouldn’t promote it. Even if Alex is my brother *grin*
    .-= Eliza´s last blog ..Understanding weight gain after 40 =-.

  3. Alessio says:

    Catherine and Eliza

    I’m also really looking forward to this journey! I’ve already worked through a couple of exercises and I notice that I’m more aware and not running on ‘autopilot’ anymore, and although it’s something small, it makes a difference.

    Looking forward to sharing my Lab Rat experiences with you!

  4. Definitely see myself in both too. It definitely comes in waves, depending on the environment around me…but sometimes, creating a shorter term plan around longer term goals helps…I think 🙂
    .-= Laura Cococcia´s last blog ..Who Are The Singers and Songwriters That Rock Your World? =-.

  5. Horatio says:

    Perhaps it’s a bad sign that I got here after alessiolr?

    Reading that description of myself was painful, but it’s correct. Here’s hoping that this is the start of correcting it …

  6. Alessio says:

    Horatio:

    It is quite a wake up call, and it helps us create an awareness of ourselves, which is beneficial to busting our Somedays!

  7. Mama Bird says:

    I’m very interested in following these. I see aspects of myself in both of these scenarios, as well as aspects of other people that I know. I think that many would find that to be true. Life has a way of getting comfortable, I think, that often makes us lazy. At least that is true of myself, for sure.

    Also, I used to make things happen for myself…whatever I wanted, I usually worked hard and got. But, I haven’t been that way pretty much since I’ve been with my husband. It’s my own mental block, as he is supportive in whatever I do. But, for some reason, having other people to consider holds me back.

    I can’t wait to see how this plays out for both Allessio and Horatio and hope I can glean some tips. 🙂
    .-= MB´s last blog ..Do You Use Swagbucks? =-.

  8. Alex Fayle says:

    @Catherine
    Yay! I’m looking forward to seeing their progress too.

    @Eliza
    Thanks for the plug. 😉

    @Alessio
    Yay to shutting down the autopilot – self-awareness makes a huge difference.

    @Laura
    I’m with you on the longer term goals and shorter term plan. If I don’t have that mix right I get all distracted.

    @Horatio
    Not a bad sign at all – different time zones. 😉

    And yes, we will definitely start correcting things – and soon!

    @Mama
    I totally understand your problem – so often when we’re with someone we put all our energy into the relationship or the other person and so put aside our own dreams, even if the other person doesn’t want us to do that. It’s cultural conditioning, I think and it’s tough to break.

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