While I’m out having a whole lot of fun in Madrid being as un-bored as possible, here’s another guest post for you, this time looking at why it’s easier to stay bored than to get ourselves moving by Dragos Roua.
Although those setbacks may look like external factors, they are in fact internals blocks of unsolved problems.You may think you’re facing outside problems, but in fact you’re just fighting with your own baggage from the past.
With your inner inertia.
A plane usually weights dozens of tons. And yet, it’s capable of taking off the ground in a few seconds. If you’ve ever been on a plane, you know what happens when the plane takes off: a huge energy release.
That’s how the plane is beating inertia: it releases a fantastic flow of energy. Once it reached the cruise altitude, it will be really easy to stay there, but until it reaches that stage, it might put up some serious work.
Every time you engage in a new phase of your life you’re like a plane taking off. You need a huge energy boost in order to leave the ground of old you behind and reach your new cruise altitude.
You do have to put up some serious effort in this. The most important phase in a change is the ignition one, and it’s usually accountable for more than 50% of the change success. If you keep your focus on the first stages, on the lifting up phase and manage to have a successful take off, the rest of the journey will be literally a breeze.
If you really want to take off, you have to accept the concept of gravity. You have to understand that there are some things that are dragging you down and deal with them. Accepting them is a good start. In fact, is the only way to deal with something.
If a plane wouldn’t accept the concept of gravity, it will never take off. It may imagine it took off but it didn’t.
If you delude yourself thinking you’re not having things you have to solve before taking off, you’ll stay on the ground for ever. If you pretend you don’t see gravity, you can’t beat it. Once you accepted the facts and assessed their intensity, you can start to understand how much energy you’ll need to break from them. The same way a plane knows how much fuel it needs for beating gravity in a take off.
Play With It
Once you accepted your setback start playing with it. Start to make it smaller and smaller until you have something you can work with.
In the beginning it might feel like a huge problem, but if you’re constantly challenging that problem, you’ll make it manageable.
If you were a pilot and somebody will put you directly on a plane after you finished flight school, I bet you would have quite a hard time making the plane fly. This is why you first have to go through a flight simulator. A flight simulator makes you play until the whole concept of flying a plane becomes manageable enough.
Try to simulate your problem and practice your moves until you become so skilled than it’s no difference anymore between the simulator and the real world.
If you are going to embrace a very big challenge, you’d better be starting to practice it. Start with small changes and assess your progress. Do it on a practicing environment until you have developed enough skills, confidence and experience to go on a really big change.
It’s a like a plane pilot who start practicing on school planes before going professional. I don’t really think there was a single pilot who ever got in the cabin of a Concorde without first flying a Cessna. Practicing your changes helps you build self-esteem and vision. Not only you’d become better at what you do, but you’ll understand more about what you want.
Maybe you really don’t want to fly a Concorde but you can never find out until you practice some flying.
Your inner inertia can be challenged. Start setting up bigger goals and see how much it will affect it. Like climbing a higher mountain or going an extra mile on your daily run.
Go for more and for better.
I was surprised to learn that once I beat my inner inertia in one field, it was weaker on other areas too. If you manage to have that extra mile on your daily run, for instance, you’ll also be better at climbing mountains. Or even at apparently unrelated areas, like reading faster or learning better. It’s like constantly raising your altitude.
If you’re comfortable flying at 5000 meters, try 7000. Or 10.000. The higher you go, the easier it will be.
For the last 10 years Dragos Roua has been an entrepreneur in the online publishing business. In 2008 he sold the business to follow his intuition and now focuses exclusively on personal development as a business. Using everything he learned from being a successful entrepreneur, manager, programmer and business man he now helps others become successful too.
You can visit Dragos’ blog at http://www.dragosroua.com