Not Getting Started: Introducing (the rest of) the New Lab Rats

Last week we took a look at the two male Lab Rats and how they’ve decided to stop waiting for life to come to them. This week it’s the female Lab Rats’ turn… Let’s see how they’re stuck and how they hope to get unstuck through the Lab Rat program and the Someday My Ship Will Come In ebook.

whatmegsaid on flickr.comUnlike the male Lab Rats, Wendee and Lizzie haven’t been waiting for life to start – they’ve been waiting for the right moment to start any of the thousands of plans they have. They’re both big list makers and have troubles deciding on which of the many projects they’ll take on so end up choosing none.

Wendee and Lizzie will therefore get something slightly different out of the process than Alessio and Horatio. Instead of learning how to picture a future and go for it, they’ll learn to narrow down all the possible futures into a few goals to pursue in the moment.

The Too-Long To-Do List

Lizzie has a long list of desires – from weight loss to a clean basement to her mother’s house ready to go on the market. She also wants to revamp her career connections so that she can breeze into work when her daughter starts school in the fall. And on top of that, Lizzie wants to increase her sense of self-awareness, paying more attention to all aspects in her life.

She complains that she doesn’t get things done and has items on to-do lists from two years ago still unfinished. This lack of a sense of accomplishment is common for people who have a lot on the go. Without putting enough focused energy into a select number of goals, the energy dissipates and nothing moves forward in any sort of satisfying way.

The Lab Rat experience will give Lizzie the focus and the public accountability to cut down on the to-do list by weeding out what’s not important and putting concentrated effort into what’s left.

The More-Interesting Fantasy Life

Wendee has a similar problem to Lizzie – too many interesting things on the go. However, Wendee doesn’t actually get anything done because she’s busy living in a fantasy world where projects are all finished and there’s plenty of time for surfing the web, collecting tools without using them and taking classes or reading more instead of implementing what she already knows.

And Wendee has reason to find daydreams tempting. She’s mostly unemployed, without a clear idea of long-term career plans. She has many ideas, but doesn’t know how to assess them. She’s therefore looking for the Lab Rat experience to give her the tools to move past what she calls the “marinating” stage of projects (i.e., thinking about ideas without starting any of them).

Despite her love for retreating into the inner world of planning and daydreaming, Wendee does admit to having a pragmatic side and so is willing to expose the messy details of her life to get some free coaching. I’ll be capitalizing on this pragmatic side later in the program, for sure!

So, there you have it! This season’s four Lab Rats. Next week we’ll get started with the program officially, diving into the exercises from chapter one of Someday My Ship Will Come In.

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8 thoughts on “Not Getting Started: Introducing (the rest of) the New Lab Rats

  1. Andy Hayes says:

    Wow – sounds like a great line-up we have for this ‘season’. Who doesn’t have too many to dos on their too many to do lists? I know I do 🙂
    .-= Andy Hayes´s last blog ..Travelling a Little Adrift with Shannon =-.

  2. Horatio says:

    “she’s busy living in a fantasy world where projects are all finished and there’s plenty of time for surfing the web, collecting tools without using them and taking classes or reading more instead of implementing what she already knows.”

    This sounds dreadfully familiar to me … “Everything will fall into place just as soon as I have that the right organiser / done all the reading / learnt how to do X / get all my pencils organised”

    Welcome aboard Wendee and Lizzie.

  3. Alessio says:

    Hey Lizzie and Wendee

    I DEFINITELY see a little bit of myself in you..
    Research, research, research, but no action!

    Looking forward to going on this journey with you!
    Hope we can all come out at the end of this with the right tools to do some SERIOUS Someday-Busting!! 🙂

  4. Mama Bird says:

    WOW! I was reading both of these descriptions out to my husband because I see myself in both of them. I have a million things on my to do list, get super motivated (usually when I’m in bed going to sleep…all geared up for a new day!), then the next day, when I do have spare time away from my kids (admittedly far and few between), I spend it on the net rather than getting done what needs to be done. Ack…on the net now…feeling guilty.

    Can’t wait to see how this plays out.
    .-= Mama Bird´s last blog ..Alternative Gifts for First Birthday =-.

  5. Wendee says:

    Thanks all for the welcome. Glad to not be alone in this 😉

  6. Alex Fayle says:

    @Andy
    I do too – everytime I finish something at least five new ideas add themselves to the list of things not yet done.

    @Horatio
    That’s a classic living in the future moment: “I’ll love life once this, that and the other thing change” but then having too many things on that list to reasonably accomplish.

    @Alessio & @Wendee
    Yay to solidarity in Somedays! 😉

    @Mama Bird
    Outside influences like kids do a lot to zap motivation. People live so much for those who are dependent on them, it’s easy to forget to live for oneself too.

  7. Leslie says:

    I can see myself in all four lab rats – it’s nice to know I’m not alone. I’m going to enjoy following this series – hopefully while applying some of these things myself and not just using reading about them as another procrastination technique!

  8. Alex Fayle says:

    @Leslie
    Glad you’re enjoying the series and I’m certain you’ll find something in the things mentioned in the posts will help you take action.

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