Last week we took a look at the two male Lab Rats and how they’ve decided to stop waiting for life to come to them. This week it’s the female Lab Rats’ turn… Let’s see how they’re stuck and how they hope to get unstuck through the Lab Rat program and the Someday My Ship Will Come In ebook.
Unlike the male Lab Rats, Wendee and Lizzie haven’t been waiting for life to start – they’ve been waiting for the right moment to start any of the thousands of plans they have. They’re both big list makers and have troubles deciding on which of the many projects they’ll take on so end up choosing none.
Wendee and Lizzie will therefore get something slightly different out of the process than Alessio and Horatio. Instead of learning how to picture a future and go for it, they’ll learn to narrow down all the possible futures into a few goals to pursue in the moment.
The Too-Long To-Do List
Lizzie has a long list of desires – from weight loss to a clean basement to her mother’s house ready to go on the market. She also wants to revamp her career connections so that she can breeze into work when her daughter starts school in the fall. And on top of that, Lizzie wants to increase her sense of self-awareness, paying more attention to all aspects in her life.
She complains that she doesn’t get things done and has items on to-do lists from two years ago still unfinished. This lack of a sense of accomplishment is common for people who have a lot on the go. Without putting enough focused energy into a select number of goals, the energy dissipates and nothing moves forward in any sort of satisfying way.
The Lab Rat experience will give Lizzie the focus and the public accountability to cut down on the to-do list by weeding out what’s not important and putting concentrated effort into what’s left.
The More-Interesting Fantasy Life
Wendee has a similar problem to Lizzie – too many interesting things on the go. However, Wendee doesn’t actually get anything done because she’s busy living in a fantasy world where projects are all finished and there’s plenty of time for surfing the web, collecting tools without using them and taking classes or reading more instead of implementing what she already knows.
And Wendee has reason to find daydreams tempting. She’s mostly unemployed, without a clear idea of long-term career plans. She has many ideas, but doesn’t know how to assess them. She’s therefore looking for the Lab Rat experience to give her the tools to move past what she calls the “marinating” stage of projects (i.e., thinking about ideas without starting any of them).
Despite her love for retreating into the inner world of planning and daydreaming, Wendee does admit to having a pragmatic side and so is willing to expose the messy details of her life to get some free coaching. I’ll be capitalizing on this pragmatic side later in the program, for sure!
So, there you have it! This season’s four Lab Rats. Next week we’ll get started with the program officially, diving into the exercises from chapter one of Someday My Ship Will Come In.