Beating the Odds: The Bloggess Interview

Anti-Boredom month wouldn’t be complete without a visit from one of the funniest bloggers out there – Jenny, the Bloggess. I first discovered her with her transgendered Lego piece and am delighted to hear that she has a book in the works (with an agent already and everything!) and writes columns in newspapers. But life isn’t all fun and blogging. Even the Bloggess has suffered from Someday Syndrome…

Jenny the BloggessWho: Jenny, the Bloggess
Jenny is a broken woman who exercises most of her demons by writing nonsense and completely offensive blogs and columns.

Name one moment in your life when you threw a pity party for yourself and the reasons why you felt you weren’t able to achieve your goals. Were you feeling stuck? Had you felt you failed? What wasn’t working in your life?
I always wanted to be a mom first and foremost but I found out that I have a rare blood disease and ended up having many miscarriages. I blamed myself because I thought if I was a better person, or found the right religion or prayed the right way that maybe my children would have survived.

Even our lowest moments fulfill a need in us or express our desires. When you threw yourself that pity party, what did you hope to gain? What need did you fulfill?
It was self-preservation for me. I couldn’t function so I just hid away and refused to talk to anyone but my husband. I wanted to pretend it wasn’t happening.

Tell us what you did to break up the pity party. What actions did you decide to take? Did someone help you buoy your spirits? Push you along?
I decided to fight and I tried all the experimental drugs. The one that finally worked involved about 600 blood-thinner injections in my stomach. It helped to have friends and family who could help me laugh about it when my stomach turned into a patchwork quilt of bruises.

Can you look back on that moment and tell us how you felt when you did decide to take action? What results came about from your decision to take charge and move on?
I felt strong…like I’d finally gained back some control in my life. A year later I had my beautiful daughter, Hailey.

Everyone has a Someday problem hiding deep inside, even little ones. What variety of the Someday Syndrome do you currently harbor? What would you like to achieve but haven’t yet?
I’ve been trying to write a book for 10 years and I still haven’t finished it.

Examining your Someday Syndrome problem, what are you currently doing to resolve it and eliminate it from your life?
I’ve set goal for myself and I’ve asked my agent to yell at me weekly if I don’t hit my weekly deadline of pages. I don’t think that syndrome will ever be completely eliminated but I’m trying to find a way to work around it.

Many people suffer the same problems you do. You’re not alone, and neither are they. What would you tell people in your situation right now to help them avoid what you’re going through?
Have confidence in yourself. The thing that holds me back the most is the doubt I have that I’m a good enough writer. Find someone who can tell you that you’re good enough. Or drink a lot. I do both of those.

If you could ask for one thing, right now, to help you overcome your Someday Syndrome, what type of help would you ask for?
Encouragement. I’m constantly berating myself all day. I need encouragement to counter all the bad things I say to myself.

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11 thoughts on “Beating the Odds: The Bloggess Interview

  1. Alessio says:

    Wow! Can totally relate to Jenny.

    Doubt and fear certainly holds me back and prevents me living the life I want to. I tend to think that I’m not good enough, so why even bother?

    I also totally agree with having encouragement, and some kind of accountability too. Sometimes we need a voice of reason to say “Get over yourself! You can do this.” and “Get of your ass and do this!”

    I also find that sometimes getting even little things done that I’d previously tried to avoid gives me a sense of accomplishment.

  2. Helpful interview and of course, I do like the part about finding someone who can tell you you’re good enough / or drink alot ๐Ÿ™‚ I think we all seem to suffer from the same defeating voices from time to time, but I think posts (and sites) like yours help pull us collectively out of our funks.
    .-= Laura – The Journal of Cultural Conversation´s last blog ..Women Who Are Changing the World with Words: An Interview with Amy Richards and Jennifer Baumgardner =-.

  3. Lori Hoeck says:

    Hi Jenny,
    That Inner Critic’s voice likes to rip at us all. I’ve learned to deal better with mine by 1) learning that my Enneagram personality type naturally doesn’t trust itself, but can learn to do so, 2) reading Dr. Wayne Dyer’s books, including “Excuses Begone!”, 3) delving into the book “The Artists Way at Work, Riding the Dragon” by Mark Bryan and Julia Cameron, and 4) learning more about writing from Natalie Goldberg in her book “Writing Down the Bones.” But hey, that’s me being a book worm, and I know we all travel the writing road differently.

    Yes, you are a good enough writer. I haven’t read anything as funny as your blog post about the trip to the Navy ship in a long time. Your wealth of experiences — both good and bad — make your writing robust, energetic, and wacky enough to give the reader a delicious jolt.

    Hi Alex,
    Thank you for such an enriching and motivating interview with Jenny.
    .-= Lori Hoeck´s last blog ..โ€˜Burn Noticeโ€™ teaches โ€˜Think Like a Spyโ€™ =-.

  4. Andy Hayes says:

    Wow, talk about putting yourself out there. Jenny, you’ll finish the book, I have faith! Good luck, we look forward to reading it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    .-= Andy Hayes´s last blog ..Photo Essay: Patterns =-.

  5. Maizie. says:

    I love Jenny and follow her on Twitter so I can indulge in all of the funny antics! This article was a pleasure to read through!
    .-= Maizie.´s last blog ..One Fine Day Earrings =-.

  6. What a great interview! I love The Bloggess! ๐Ÿ™‚ She’s definitely anti-boring and I’m so glad you showcased her here today. Awesome!!
    .-= Positively Present´s last blog ..happiness doesn’t just happen =-.

  7. Kevin Miller says:

    I really hope “exercises her demons” was an intentional misspelling.

  8. Marinka says:

    I totally bow to Jenny.

    She is the funniest blogger out there (well, at least in the top 50) and her Mother’s Day post on Good Mom/Bad Mom moved me so much that I couldn’t even comment.

    She’s so awesome that I plan to avoid her at BlogHer. Because it would be like meeting Dostoevsky and I’m just not ready.
    .-= Marinka´s last blog ..Fear of Dying =-.

  9. Hey Jenny, you simply rock! You’re a true inspiration. I will definitely follow you over at Twitter. I will resolve to myself not to hold back in doing things that I love and want to do! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  10. Hey, Jenny–love, love, love your blog!!! And this interview reminded me of how trying to conceive under pressure sucks everything out of the rest of your life. (I had it totally easy in retrospect, but I started right before my 43rd birthday and promised my partner I’d give it 6 months.) So with every motion of every day my head was going “time to make the bed–will I ever get pregnant? Oh, we’re out of cat food–will I ever get pregnant?”

    Can I pre-order your book on Amazon yet and pressure you to finish it?
    .-= Lab Rat Lizzie´s last blog ..Monday, Monday =-.

  11. Alex Fayle says:

    @Alessio
    The trick to getting over doubt and fear is to build up your victories, looking for small opportunities to move forward and then moving on to larger goals.

    @Laura
    Ever since I’ve come online with Someday Syndrome, I get such positive feedback from people all over the web I’ve never had a doubt about its effectiveness – the power of positive feedback is amazing. Even when I’ve considered stopping, I’ve thought of the kind words and have decided not to quit. Praise is addictive! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    @Lori
    I agree entirely. Anyone who can write like Jenny does never needs to feel unworthy or not good enough. Our toughest critics are usually ourselves and we need to learn to turn off the voice – great resources! Thanks.

    @Andy
    Do you think if we all start leaving daily messages on Jenny’s blog asking about the book progress she’ll write it just to shut us all up?

    @Maizie
    Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed the blog and Jenny’s writing.

    @Positively Present
    When I decided on the theme for the month Jenny was the first person I thought of. Anti-boring = The Bloggess.

    @Kevin
    Given the topics that Jenny writes on, I’d say yes, very intentional.

    @Marinka
    LOL! I hear you on avoiding awesome people. When I was 18 I met a singer I loved and I just stared at her without shaking her hand. It was totally embarrassing.

    @Spinal Care Australia
    Yay to the resolve! Yay to inspiration!

    @Lizzie
    Good for you for the deadline – and it worked, didn’t it? ๐Ÿ˜‰

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