- Someday Lesson: By writing things down you commit to action more than if you just talk about it.
If you take a look at the Someday Busting Services you’ll notice something rather odd in the world of coaching: everything I offer is based in the written word. There’s no face-to-face meetings, no phone calls and no Voice over IP chats.
The fast answer: being a writer I like the written word.
But there’s more to it than that.
When we write things down we make them more powerful as well as more concrete and more likely to come true.
As Richard Wiseman in his book, 59 Seconds, says:
From a psychological perspective, talking and writing are very different. Talking can often be somewhat unstructured, disorganized, even chaotic. In contrast, writing encourages the creation of a story line and structure that help people make sense of what has happened and work towards a solution. In short, talking can add to a sense of confusion while writing provides a more systematic, and solution-based, approach.
While Wiseman is specifically talking about people who have experienced trauma in their lives, using the written word helps rid our lives of Somedays by creating a story out of our past, present and future.
It also takes the chaos out of our heads and puts it down on paper (or the computer screen) where we can look at it more objectively and determine the best path forward without the weight of emotions pushing us in a direction we might not want to go.
In your own Someday Journey, do you talk about it or write about it? If you talk, how much are you actually doing? Writing things down prepares us for doing while talking all too often becomes a form of avoiding action.
A guided Someday Journey such as the Someday Busting Services offer creates the story and commits you to action through the following:
1. Two complimentary introduction email sessions:
When you first start with Someday Syndrome, I send you a version of the Someday Interview that goes up each Monday. In this interview you tell me about some challenge you faced in the past and how you solved the problem. By writing it down you see in print that you are capable of beating your Somedays – you see a beginning (the problem), a middle (your reaction/meltdown moment) and an end (how you solved the problem).
You might not have solved it to your complete satisfaction or it might be an ongoing problem that you still experience, but writing down what you felt and how you reacted not only creates the story for you, but it gives me insight into how you see the world, giving me the opportunity to help you edit the story in a way that will create the happy ending you’re looking for.
As well in these introductory sessions, you get a quick-victory suggestion plus some advice on how to start altering your thinking to create long term changes. By having these solutions written down you can come back to them repeatedly and use the written words to help you create new habits and new patterns in your life.
2. A discussion on what guide will work best for you:
Everyone has different needs and is on a different part of the path towards busting their Somedays. Because of that the tools I recommend will be different. Some might just the gentle push that a Someday ebook offers, while others might get rid of the Somedays through working closely with me using a combination of the Someday Busting Program and custom-created exercises. Or there’s the middle ground of a do-it-yourself Someday Busting or a guided journey through an ebook.
For some, just having the intro sessions is enough of a push and I will tell them (in writing) that they don’t need me and not to waste their money on something they’re well on the way to achieving on their own.
3. A concrete ending with reference materials:
By creating a story out of your Someday Journey, the focus is on the end point – on getting rid of the word Someday and making it today. And while some clients choose to continue on in a maintenance program to ensure Someday Syndrome doesn’t creep back into their lives, all the Someday Busting Services and ebooks are designed with a specific ending. And by writing down each of your exercises you end up with a manual that you can refer back to when you feel like you’re saying Someday more often than you’d like to.
Many coaching and counseling services seem to go on forever without a specific goal. Not so at Someday Syndrome. My goal as a Someday Mentor is a full cure of Someday Syndrome. And for that reason in each of the guided journeys I offer (all of the Someday Busting Services and guided versions of the ebooks) you get a weekly summary of the progress you’ve made since the beginning of our time together. You get to see in print how far you’ve come and when you feel like you’re backsliding you can take a look at each of the exercises you’ve completed and remotivate yourself to move forward again.
And that’s why everything on Someday Syndrome starts and finishes with the written word. By writing everything down, you’re not just talking about it, you’re creating a plan and committing to action.
Because without structure and action, Someday will never become today.