Actively Involved in Change Mentoring vs Coaching

  • Someday Lesson: A mentor provides active assistance by pulling you up past your obstacles.

Laram777 on Flickr.comAt the top of this page in the menu, you’ll see the word Coaching but in reality I’m not a Coach. I’m a Mentor.

I don’t encourage and let you develop your own path through a series of sometimes oblique and sometimes direct questions. I use my own experiences and my unique ability to see patterns where others don’t see them to tell you like it is.

After seeing patterns in your life that you may not, I make suggestions so that you can change those patterns and create new ones that clear your life of Somedays and open up your future to the life you want.

You’re here at Someday Syndrome for a reason – you want to live more. You want to take action of some sort and kick the procrastination habit. You want to change your life and create the freedom to choose exactly what your future will look like.

This process can happen slowly or quickly.

I don’t know about you, but I’m a pretty impatient person. Changing a lifetime of habits can take another whole lifetime and I’d rather actively live the changes than spend a long time discovering them.

For that reason I created my Someday Syndrome ebooks and services. I don’t want you to spend years finding the blocking patterns in your life. I want you to stop talking, stop analyzing and stop waiting. I want to get you doing, living, choosing and feeling happier with your life.

So, I prod, I poke and I offer my (sometimes rather strong) opinions.

Am I right all the time? No.

But by being just as active as you are in the change process, I open up a discussion that provides you with a place to tell me what you really do want rather than what your fears, habits and personal blocks try to get you to do.

Someday Syndrome clients really want to change. They don’t just talk about it. They want to take action but don’t know how.

You understand that, don’t you? You have a dream, or maybe just a sense of wanting something better out of your life, but you have no idea how to achieve it.

You’re also someone who likes to think things through. You don’t want to deal with a phone call or face-to-face meeting where you can’t think about what you say first.

I get that. I’m a writer and believe that writing out your thoughts, your desires and your committed actions makes them more real.

But I’m not passive and I’m not oblique. I’m direct and I demand action.

And for that I don’t call myself a Coach. I’m a Mentor.

A mentor is someone who has already gone through it all and wants to show others how do it without making all their mistakes. That’s me (and believe me, I made a lot of mistakes by putting off my Somedays).

It’s time to take the next step in your Someday Journey. Time to take action.

And the action I ask from you is just a simple one. Fill out the Personalized Someday Assessment form and let me provide you with two complementary mentoring sessions via email to show you exactly how much progress can be made when you work with a mentor rather than trying to muddle through on your own.

Because you don’t want to live with Someday Syndrome your whole life, do you?

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2 thoughts on “Actively Involved in Change Mentoring vs Coaching

  1. Sheryl Sisk says:

    Great post, Alex! You seem to have a real grasp on what it is you can offer your potential clients and that’s great. Benefits, not features – that’s the key, right?

    But to be honest, I’m not really sure what you’re describing is all that different from what *good* coaches do. Please note the stressed “good” — there are all too many folks out there who “hang their shingles” with a free website, label themselves coaches, but don’t really have a firm grasp on what that means. As a result, sometimes they try to serve too many roles — therapist (dangerous), consultant (ephemeral), boss (not helpful) … and the result is a messy stew of inaction.

    The best coaches not only help their clients set and reach their goals, but offer their own insight based on their experience and training. By taking an appropriate yet active role in the “process,” we can cut through the extraneous and the fear-based crap we all construct in our own lives and hit the target — whatever the target is, and however the client and coach choose to define success.

    Good luck to you, Alex! Whether you call what you do coaching or mentoring isn’t really important — it’s how you serve your clients, and it seems pretty clear you’ve got a lot to offer them. I wish you all success!
    .-= Sheryl Sisk´s last blog ..Rule #7: Manage Expectations — Yours and Others (10 Rules for Successfully Managing Your Time in Social Networking Activities) =-.

  2. Alex Fayle says:

    @Sheryl
    The coach I had back in Toronto did pretty much the same thing – challenging me and offering suggestions. I based the post on what new coaches are told in their training – that they should let the client create solutions themselves rather than guiding directly, but as you say most good coaches bring themselves into the mix because that’s why most people choose a coach: because they identify with what the coach has gone through and what wisdom they bring with them to the coaching relationship.

    And one area I’m very clear about is therapist – I’m not one and anyone who needs one gets a recommendation from me to someone who is properly qualified.

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