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Turning Your Goals Into Plans The Quick Method

Did you know that December is National Write a Business Plan Month? Now, I’m not a big fan of business plans (actually I find most of them useless documents that sit on the shelf and never get looked at). And many of you have no need for a business plan as your Somedays are not business related. However, I’m a big fan of small plans, of deciding on actions and then following through on implementation and in the end getting something done. To kick off this month-long look at planning, Jonathan Beebe of Develop Minds takes a look at the quick way to come up with a plan.

juhansonin on flickr.comWhen you set a “goal”, your subconscious mind tends to place it into the “someday” category, even if it’s a short-term goal you have every intention of completing. And while you may complete it as a short-term goal, the chances of failure actually go up when you label it as a “goal”… despite the fact that it’s good to have goals.

Stop for a moment and think back to the last time you went on vacation and enjoyed yourself. Beforehand, what did you do? First, you thought of what to do, and then you planned the big day. When it came up, you went out, had fun, and it felt good right?

You had an idea based on your desire, and you successfully executed it at some point in the future. Same as a goal right? The difference is, your mind is used to following through with plans, but may need much more training to follow through with “goals”, despite the fact that they are basically the same thing.

Don’t Plans Often Change?

Plans may change, but so do goals. In fact, I’d say goals change quite a bit more than plans because of the fact that they are more long-term in nature. Change isn’t always a bad thing, however. If you’re continuously growing, many things are bound to change about yourself, such as your interests, and maybe even your passions. Likewise, your goals and plans need to change in order to accommodate your changes, and that of course isn’t a bad thing.

It’s all about getting what you honestly want out of life, and as humans, what we want can change from time to time.

How to Create Your “Plan”

Let’s do a quick exercise. All you’ll need is a pen, a piece of paper, and your mind.

Take one of your big long-term goals that you hope to accomplish “someday” and that’ll be the only thing we label a “goal” for this exercise, and write it down on the top of your paper. Now, the sub-goals, or what would be called the short-term goals leading up to your big goal are going to be labeled “plans”.

Write down your new short term “plans” and decide when they should be executed, and give an estimated time-frame. Put tentative dates, and make sure to plan on executing some of them very soon, in fact, as soon as you can. If it’s honestly a goal you really want, you won’t want to wait anyway.

Below is a simplistic example plan to illustrate the exercise I just described. It’s for someone who’s always wanted to start their own online business but has previously put it into the “someday” category in their mind.

Goal: Start an Online Business

Action Plans:

  • Find a good resource and gather up the necessary knowledge.
    Date: 11/30/2009 (Today) – Complete by: 12/7/2009
  • Topic/Market Research
    Date: 12/7/2009 – Complete by: 12/14/2009
  • Create the website
    Date: 12/15/2009 – Complete by: 12/21/2009
  • Create the initial content
    Date: 12/22/2009 – Complete by: 2/22/2010
  • Create a marketing plan
    Date: 2/23/2009 – Complete by: 3/1/2010
  • And so on…
  • If you take the above example literally it will obviously have some flaws, but it wasn’t meant to help you start an online business, it’s purpose is to show you how to simply change the “goals” you need to accomplish as soon as possible into plans, so your mind actually queues the actions you need to take, rather than just letting them remain stagnant in the “someday” bin.

    Do What Works For You

    You can always modify the template to be more effective, especially if you already have a working system set up for getting things done. And if you currently had some pending goals, the “goals to plans” method I described should give you enough of a push to get started on them right away.

    Once you start accomplishing the little things that work towards your big goals, you’ll be taking steps toward the life you honestly want to be living, and remember, you can be given all the right information you need to accomplish anything you want to, and be taught everything you’ll ever need to know, but it’s all useless if you don’t put it into practice.

    Make it your plan to get started immediately.

    About Jonathan Beebe

    Jonathan Beebe is the author of Develop Minds, a personal development blog focused on providing information on how to increase your consciousness, your intelligence, and how to significantly improve your life by making the most out of it.

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The Drag of Inertia:The Lab Rats Explore What Blocks Them

Rahul3 on flickr.comBack in the first Lab Rat series, I talked about inertia as one of the reasons why people choose to be unhappy even when they know what they want out of life. That discussion prompted a section in I’ll Get Around To It Someday about how we block ourselves from following our dreams due to a habit of inaction or a habit of action in things that don’t help our dreams.

For example, I’m suffering from a sinus infection as I write this. I know where the sinus infection comes from – eating too much wheat irritates them (allergies) and they become vulnerable to whatever infections are floating about in the air. I could stop the cycle easily by not eating wheat, but I have a habit of including it in my diet and the habit’s a hard one to stop mainly because I enjoy bread and pasta and sweets.

The current crop of Lab Rats all have their own blocks related to inertia, although in Kristin’s case it’s the sudden removal of inertia (the imminent arrival of the baby) that has created her blocks.

Generally the blocks we have in our life can be divided into four areas: family, work, relationships and health. Let’s see how the Lab Rats block their dreams in each of these areas.

Family

For most of the Lab Rats a lack of progress on dreams related to the family comes from a desire to avoid conflict. For example Joyce allows the emotional problems of her son to interfere with enforcing chores and Helen lets her younger brother get away with saying offensive things because she doesn’t want to fight with him, although in Helen’s case she’s developed a much better relationship with her father by learning not to avoid conflict, so she has one success under her belt to help her with her brother.

Marie has a variety of toxic relationships to manage and has to do so actively which makes moving forward difficult as her energy goes into managing the toxicity instead.

Johnny’s family related blocks come from wanting to be a great parent but not devoting enough time to do things he wants to share with his kids. I’m certain that this is a common challenge for parents – where do you draw the line? What does “quality time” mean? Being a parent is a full-time job on top of all other commitments and there’s always something more a parent could be doing, so sometimes it’s just easier to do nothing.

Finally Kristin’s family blocks come from distance. She lives five hours away by plane which makes staying in touch difficult. Her pregnancy has also distanced her even more from the family, blocking her from taking a whole-family trip that’s been in the works for five years.

Work

Let’s go back to everyone’s Someday Challenges for this one. Helen said her life was almost perfect and at work she loves 90% of what she does, but because she enjoys it so much she has a habit of using work to put off the other things she’s blocking in her life (like her health).

Marie struggles to finish her dissertation but her hostile work/school environment makes it difficult to actually want to do anything. She needs to actively remind herself every day that she loves the topic of her dissertation, which again drains energy from moving forward.

Although she says she wants to work on her writing, Joyce finds other things to do, doesn’t insist on the quiet she needs to write (see avoiding conflict above) and feels uncomfortable promoting herself and her writing. Many writers are like this. We can’t not write and yet we spend much of our time avoiding writing altogether. It’s like we find the idea of writing so overwhelming we run from it instead of embracing it.

Kristin is another writer-in-the-works but her worry isn’t avoiding writing. She worries that by living in the unstructured world of new motherhood where everything revolves around the baby she won’t create the time to work on her dreams. She’s going to try to set up some routines before the baby comes, but of course all bets are off once the baby actually does arrive.

As for Johnny, he knows that his paid work is a habit and that he will use it and anything else to avoid the career development for what he really wants. He also knows that if he sticks to his plans he could find work in his dream profession within three months and yet he’s spent many more months avoiding doing just that. He’s always struggled with inertia in all his jobs and being motivated doesn’t matter – he still delays. For Johnny, as we move forward we’ll look at developing habits of small actions to turn inertia into motion.

Relationships

Marie and Johnny have no major blocks with their relationships and Helen’s only block is a lack of time (see work above) to commit to her husband.

Kristin on the other hand uses the conflict-avoidance method on her husband because she knows that for the next while she will depend on him for “everything from finances, to emotional support, to adult company, to plain old heavy lifting.” So of course she doesn’t want to rock the boat, but avoiding conflict often creates more through resentment and misunderstandings.

And Joyce struggles with interactions with others because she has a social anxiety that keeps her home and that tires her out too much to enjoy it. Plus she has this to add:

From what I can tell, having had to rely only on myself since I was a very young age, I have developed a block that keeps me from opening up and asking for what I want.  I allow fear—of appearing weak, stupid, inefficient, being rejected—to take over and stop me from doing what needs done.

This fear of hurt is harder to overcome than inertia because beyond getting moving, there’s also the protective shell that needs to be removed first (because it blocks her vision and limits how far she can travel). The fear does, however, explain some of Joyce’s reluctance to write. When a writer puts words down on paper she opens herself up to rejection and although Joyce has previously published books, each time it’s a brand new experience.

Health

Not surprisingly everyone says that they could be doing better health-wise with Marie being the only person to say she exercises every day.

Joyce, instead of not doing enough, does too much at times thus creating more pain but, as I learned through living in constant pain for ten years, on those days where we feel all right we take too much advantage of the feeling and make the next day worse. Balance evades us because when we feel good we want to squeeze everything in before the next bout of pain.

Kristin, of course, with the pregnancy experiences new sensations every day and wishes she would pay more attention to what she eats but she knows that it’s just a matter of making the time to do so and to not create her schedule around her work, her friends or her husband (again see conflict-avoidance above).

Johnny gets chronic headaches from so much time in front of the computer and knows that if he treats his body well, they go away, but sometimes it’s tough to remember even with the pain as a reminder.

Helen identified her health as her number one Someday and has this to say about the her health blocks:

Boy would I be fibbing if I said I have no blocks here!! I cannot seem to get a hold on what I want to achieve or even work out how to start. I know I want to be fit and healthy. I know I want to loose some weight but there is a bit of me that says I can’t be bothered – but I know that is an excuse – I think the reality is that there are so many things in my life I enjoy doing more.  Also my diet is very location dependent. In London I have a really healthy diet and I walk miles each day regularly doing 20,000 steps a day but at home it is rare for me to leave the house although my diet is still ok. I know there are blocks here but I just have difficulty seeing them and finding the energy to break through.

Procrastination is a tricky beast. Most of us know what we need to do to reach our goals but we can’t find the energy to do so. It’s like the carrot isn’t enough and sometimes the stick (of pain) doesn’t work either.

It’s a matter of finding the right carrot and the right stick to get us moving. What might be the right combination for someone won’t work for another. As we continue through the ebook, each of the Lab Rats will discover what dreams inspire them and what fears motivate them until they’re moving forward with ease.

And if you want to know what might help you with your Someday Journey, check out the Personalized Someday Assessment. You know you want to live more, so go for it!

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A State of Self-Awareness: What Goals Do Your Actions Serve?

  • Someday Lesson: Without self-awareness, personal growth won’t happen.

Elizabeth/Table4Five on flickr.comMost people think that getting over procrastination involves a famous slogan that politely tells us to get off our collective asses and start working – just do it.

However, it’s not that simple. If you don’t know why you procrastinate or what goals, desires and fears are working in contradiction to one another, no amount of just doing it will produce any results. Since understanding comes from self-awareness, for the second exercise in the ebook I’ll Get Around To It Someday, I asked the Lab Rats to monitor themselves for a few days looking at what actions they took and what goals each of those actions served.

Now, when I say “goals” in this instance, I don’t mean the thought-out planned goals. I mean the unconscious outcomes that we bring about by letting our actions just happen without conscious choice.

For example, I know that I have a tendency to fritter when I really want to be highly focused and that frittering serves a goal of avoiding hard work. That’s a part of who I am and that avoidance is just as much a goal as getting a book published one day. You can see however, that these two goals contradict one another, but by being aware of them, I have learned how to manage them so that they don’t interfere with each other.

The Lab Rats, however, haven’t reached that point yet. They’re at the awareness stage and this week we look at what goals they drew out of the exercise.

The Wrong Maze

Before we get started though, a side note. I wasn’t sure how many of the Lab Rats would actually get through this particular maze I set them, so it came as no surprise that two people decided not to enter it. Nor did it surprise me who were the two non-maze-runners.

First was Helen, whose life is more or less how she wants it and is highly busy, tracking her workday down to the quarter hour. Shoehorning in another tracking project to her already busy schedule was just not going to happen. But that’s okay – in Helen’s case I’d ask her to stop a moment before starting any task or choosing any piece of food throughout the day. And that question is:

How does doing this make my life better?

By asking herself that question, she creates self-awareness for all her actions but doesn’t need to actually track it. And if she asks it for everything she does, it will become a habit and will help her stop making less-than-healthy choices.

Who else didn’t submit? Marie – the dissertation student who admitted last week to a full-on procrastination problem. Marie knows what the problem is: she’s self-sabotaging due to doubts about her future, but like most normal people, she has no interest in facing this self-sabotage. Asking Marie to track her actions for a week asks her to face her self-destructive behavior full-on and honestly that’s not going to happen either – nor will it be very effective in curing her of her procrastination. Much better to let it go for a week and continue on with other exercises, coming at the problem from a different angle.

Now let’s take a look at what (positive and negative) goals our other Lab Rats pursue on a day to day basis.

Johnny

Johnny would like to set his days as mornings for work and afternoons for planning his career. Unfortunately the career planning part holds a lot of uncertainty and fear, so he creates other activities to distract him from actually getting there.

His conflicting goals are as such:

  1. Find a career he’s passionate about.
  2. Avoid the huge knot of emotions the first goal generates.
  3. Get work done enough to feed the family.

Despite not really wanting to work at the last goal, the “feed the family” part is usually enough to get him moving on it even if he takes a long time to get around to it.

With the first one however, right now the protective avoidance keeps him from pursuing his passion. In his original notes to me Johnny confided that this sort of behavior happened regularly in the past – he would want very much to accomplish something but would procrastinate about it so much that he wouldn’t get it done.

Think of it as the little boy who has a crush on a little girl, but since he can’t deal with the overwhelming emotions concerning the girl, hits her and teases her instead of talking to her.

Joyce

In looking at the goals served in a typical day for Joyce, one major issue jumped out at me. Almost every single one of her goals serves obligations and not desires:

  1. Pets’ wellbeing
  2. Family’s wellbeing
  3. Son’s education
  4. Business obligations
  5. Networking
  6. Joyce’s education
  7. Obligation to her body’s pain
  8. Obligation to her nicotine habit
  9. Friend’s wellbeing
  10. Desire to write

Obviously Joyce cares about the well-being of those around her; but in a typical day, almost all of the activities she does for reasons other than personal desire. Yes, Joyce chooses to smoke, but after many years of doing so her body has created an obligation – if she wants to feel good during the day, she needs to smoke. The (unhealthy) obligation is to her body’s cravings.

Only her own schooling and her writing speak directly to her needs and often she reaches the end of the day too tired to write, so even that goal doesn’t get served.

In last week’s worksheet however, Joyce didn’t mention a lot of these obligations because they are things she chooses to do and wants to do – which is great – but they don’t serve her needs directly[?] – which is not so great.

As we move forward with Joyce we’ll look for ways for her to find more time for her private goals.

Michelle

Michelle tracked a whole week and discovered that her actions are completely governed by the needs, wants and reactions of others. It wasn’t a heartening realization for her, but an important one. It means that Michelle will likely make faster progress through subsequent mazes because a few small changes will likely produce rapid results.

An obstacle I do foresee for Michelle, however, is one that a commenter on a post last week discovered – that family doesn’t appreciate changes, even if the changes are better for everyone in the long run. Because of that Michelle will face a good deal of pushback from people who are used to how she is just as she is.

On a positive note, Michelle is so poised to make big changes in her life. Her comments show a high degree of self-awareness. She knows what she needs to change – she just hasn’t done it yet. Once the mazes give her a few decision-making and choice-making tools, she’ll just start plowing through the changes into the life she really wants.

Kristin

Like many people with nine-to-five jobs, Kristin spends very little time at work actually working. That often happens for people who work in a time-based business world. Instead of focusing on results, employers look at time put in at the office.

Looking at her schedule, Kristin felt ashamed for not getting more done, but acknowledged that this is the point of her signing up to be a Lab Rat – to implement the changes.

She also realized that some of her goals serve the needs of other people who may not even care if she helps their goal and may even prefer that she work towards her own goals first and not focus on the needs of others so much..

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Break Out Your Creativity: Pop Music Positivity with Swing Out Sister

  • Someday Lesson: When it’s time to make a change, don’t hesitate – break out!

This month when I went looking for songs about being creative and breaking patterns and getting yourself out of a rut I had a really hard time find a song. There are lots of depressing love songs, or even happy love songs, but for some reason my brain encountered a block when it came to songs about creatively solving problems.

So what did I do? I applied creative problem solving techniques to the block and started playing with the words I had in my head. Once I started to do that it took me mere moments to come up with this month’s Pop Music Positivity song: Breakout by Swing Out Sister (from1986).

And while it doesn’t speak to creativity directly, it’s a great Someday-busting song because (as you can see in the lyrics below) it speaks about action and spontaneity – two of my favourite Someday-busting tools . And the video is definitely creative with all the colours!

What’s your favourite song about creativity and breaking patterns?

Enjoy! (If you want the full video – with intro! – and higher volume you can watch it on YouTube.)

Swing Out Sister: Breakout

When explanations make no sense
When every answer’s wrong
You’re fighting with lost confidence
All expectations come

The time has come to make or break
Move on don’t hesitate
Breakout

Don’t stop to ask
Now you’ve found a break to make at last
You’ve got to find a way
Say what you want to say
Breakout

When situations never change
Tomorrow looks unsure
Don’t leave your destiny to chance
What are you waiting for
The time has come to make your break
Breakout

Don’t stop to ask
Now you’ve found a break to make at last
You’ve got to find a way
Say what you want to say
Breakout

Don’t stop to ask
Now you’ve found a break to make at last
You’ve got to find a way
Say what you want to say
Breakout

Some people stop at nothing
If you’re searching for something
Lay down the law
Shout out for more
Breakout and shout day in day out
Breakout

Breakout

Don’t stop to ask
Now you’ve found a break to make at last
You’ve got to find a way
Say what you want to say
Breakout

Don’t stop to ask
Now you’ve found a break to make at last
You’ve got to find a way
Say what you want to say
Breakout

Lay down the law
Shout out for more
Breakout and shout day in day out

Breakout
Breakout
Breakout

Lay down the law
Shout out for more
Breakout and shout day in day out

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Being Accountable: The Newest Lab Rats Enter the Maze

Magically Shift The Maze To Reach Your Goal by CarbonNYC (Flickr.com)Here in the Someday Lab, no one gets to rest. One set of Lab Rats finishes their maze and the next bunch lined themselves up at the entrance to a brand new maze, cleaning their whiskers with impatient swipes of paws across noses.

And just what’s in store for the new Lab Rats? What sort of maze have I developed for them?

They’re going to be running through the worksheets in the next ebook in the Someday Syndrome Cure series: I’ll Get Around To It Someday which launches at the end of this month.

Each week, the six of them (yes, that’s right – the Lab Rats have multiplied!) will provide me with one worksheet from the ebook and I’ll discuss in public their progress.

And now that the Lab Rats have made themselves all presentable with their nervous grooming, let’s introduce (a few of) them.

Johnny

Johnny has decided to tackle the problem of procrastination head-on. He has a passion for his profession, but a poor record of delivering on time. He’s currently searching for a new position and finds it difficult to keep motivated and the habit of procrastination has held him back from finding the job he wants.

Like many procrastinators, he’s a perfectionist, worries about looking stupid, and has a tendency to distract himself easily (hmmm… that sounds remarkably like me!)

He’s tired of half-finished projects and he wants to develop some good habits, not just for himself, but as a good example to his kids.

As with the last round of Lab Rats, Johnny figures with the blog readers watching his progress he won’t have an excuse for not moving forward. He also looks forward to the feedback of the other Lab Rats and the blog readers.

Helen

Helen led off her Lab Rat application with the following:

I think I would make a perfect Lab Rat because my life is close to perfect already I just want more of it…

At first, I thought: Helen doesn’t need me! but then I experienced a mental shift and thought Yes she does!

Someday Syndrome doesn’t just affect people who aren’t clear on their lives. Somedays aren’t just big looming scary objects blocking the entirety of our lives – they are also small things, little irritations that act like grains of sand in our shoes and making the long hike through life painful.

Helen signed up to be a Lab Rat for two reasons:

  1. To add another driver in her journey to achieving the life of her dreams
  2. She knew I wouldn’t let her say “I’m too busy to focus on me and my dreams”

She hopes to achieve a number of things – the key one is clarity. She lives a life that she adores and she is incredibly blessed with what she has, however she wants to live more. She has a lot of dreams and ambitions and some of them clash so she wants to gain a level of understanding and clarity that will lead to her to remove these clashes and really consolidate and create her dream life. She also hopes to create a habit out of focusing on herself.

Going public with her journey will also make her really open and honest about what she wants without worrying about what people will think – which has been a large past issue.

Michelle

The last of this week’s Lab Rats (the other three I’ll introduce next week), Michelle is in major need of pushing her procrastination block out of the way. In her own words:

I’ve been overweight for 8 years. I kept telling myself every year that I’d start losing weight but I kept finding “busy” things that kept tempting me to say “tomorrow.” For example, I was planning on going to the gym after work but got into a fender-bender before the end of the day. Well, I didn’t get hurt and my car is perfectly fixable yet I made the excuse to myself that I needed to get in touch with insurance (it only took about 10 minutes to talk with the claims department) so I’d have to wait another day to go to the gym. Wow, 10 minutes totally blocked me out, huh? Well, it’s two days later and I still haven’t made the effort! Procrastination, procrastination…pro-cras-tuh-nay-shun!

Michelle also feels that she has a book within her and after writing several drafts, she doesn’t have a finished product (not even close!). The Internet and Facebook distract her (I know that one!) and she’s tired of the weird looks she gets when she tells people that she hasn’t finished the book she so proudly announced that she was writing two years ago.

She’s joined the experiment to get a professional’s insight as to why she slows down when she’s highly motivated and put things off when she has more than enough time to get them done. She’s hoping to discover any self-sabotage (if any) and nip it in the bud! In addition to that, she hopes to learn the necessary steps to take to stop procrastination and reverting to the same old Michelle.

Doing all this publically means taking responsibility for her choices and being accountable for forward motion.

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No, I Won’t Talk to You: Why Someday Syndrome Offers Email-Based Coaching

  • Someday Lesson: By writing things down you commit to action more than if you just talk about it.

D'Arcy Norman on flickr.comIf you take a look at the Someday Busting Services you’ll notice something rather odd in the world of coaching: everything I offer is based in the written word. There’s no face-to-face meetings, no phone calls and no Voice over IP chats.

Most coaches and mentors work face-to-face or over the telephone but at Someday Syndrome, the coaching services and the ebooks rely on the written word. Why?

The fast answer: being a writer I like the written word.

But there’s more to it than that.

When we write things down we make them more powerful as well as more concrete and more likely to come true.

As Richard Wiseman in his book, 59 Seconds, says:

From a psychological perspective, talking and writing are very different. Talking can often be somewhat unstructured, disorganized, even chaotic. In contrast, writing encourages the creation of a story line and structure that help people make sense of what has happened and work towards a solution. In short, talking can add to a sense of confusion while writing provides a more systematic, and solution-based, approach.

While Wiseman is specifically talking about people who have experienced trauma in their lives, using the written word helps rid our lives of Somedays by creating a story out of our past, present and future.

It also takes the chaos out of our heads and puts it down on paper (or the computer screen) where we can look at it more objectively and determine the best path forward without the weight of emotions pushing us in a direction we might not want to go.

In your own Someday Journey, do you talk about it or write about it? If you talk, how much are you actually doing? Writing things down prepares us for doing while talking all too often becomes a form of avoiding action.

A guided Someday Journey such as the Someday Busting Services offer creates the story and commits you to action through the following:

1. Two complimentary introduction email sessions:
When you first start with Someday Syndrome, I send you a version of the Someday Interview that goes up each Monday. In this interview you tell me about some challenge you faced in the past and how you solved the problem. By writing it down you see in print that you are capable of beating your Somedays – you see a beginning (the problem), a middle (your reaction/meltdown moment) and an end (how you solved the problem).

You might not have solved it to your complete satisfaction or it might be an ongoing problem that you still experience, but writing down what you felt and how you reacted not only creates the story for you, but it gives me insight into how you see the world, giving me the opportunity to help you edit the story in a way that will create the happy ending you’re looking for.

As well in these introductory sessions, you get a quick-victory suggestion plus some advice on how to start altering your thinking to create long term changes. By having these solutions written down you can come back to them repeatedly and use the written words to help you create new habits and new patterns in your life.

2. A discussion on what guide will work best for you:
Everyone has different needs and is on a different part of the path towards busting their Somedays. Because of that the tools I recommend will be different. Some might just the gentle push that a Someday ebook offers, while others might get rid of the Somedays through working closely with me using a combination of the Someday Busting Program and custom-created exercises. Or there’s the middle ground of a do-it-yourself Someday Busting or a guided journey through an ebook.

For some, just having the intro sessions is enough of a push and I will tell them (in writing) that they don’t need me and not to waste their money on something they’re well on the way to achieving on their own.

3. A concrete ending with reference materials:
By creating a story out of your Someday Journey, the focus is on the end point – on getting rid of the word Someday and making it today. And while some clients choose to continue on in a maintenance program to ensure Someday Syndrome doesn’t creep back into their lives, all the Someday Busting Services and ebooks are designed with a specific ending. And by writing down each of your exercises you end up with a manual that you can refer back to when you feel like you’re saying Someday more often than you’d like to.

Many coaching and counseling services seem to go on forever without a specific goal. Not so at Someday Syndrome. My goal as a Someday Mentor is a full cure of Someday Syndrome. And for that reason in each of the guided journeys I offer (all of the Someday Busting Services and guided versions of the ebooks) you get a weekly summary of the progress you’ve made since the beginning of our time together. You get to see in print how far you’ve come and when you feel like you’re backsliding you can take a look at each of the exercises you’ve completed and remotivate yourself to move forward again.

And that’s why everything on Someday Syndrome starts and finishes with the written word. By writing everything down, you’re not just talking about it, you’re creating a plan and committing to action.

Because without structure and action, Someday will never become today.

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Patience Rewards the Dedicated: Tara Swiger Interview

One thing many people (myself included) forget about achieving happiness is to have patience. Fortunately this week’s interview with Tara Swiger offers a great reminder of just how long it takes to achieve our goals, but how awesome we feel when we do.

Who: Tara Swiger of Blonde Chicken Boutique
Tara is a yarn-maker who loves sharing local, sustainable fibers that inspire creativity.

Tara SwigerName one moment in your life when you threw a pity party for yourself and the reasons why you felt you weren’t able to achieve your goals. Were you feeling stuck? Had you felt you failed? What wasn’t working in your life?
Before I started the business, I moved and couldn’t find a job that fulfilled my creativity. Months went by and there was little hope for having any career other than secretary. I found that working with yarn, knitting and spinning, and connecting with other knitters online made everything a little brighter.

Even our lowest moments fulfill a need in us or express our desires. When you threw yourself that pity party, what did you hope to gain? What need did you fulfill?
I needed to recognize that the outside world wasn’t going to provide me with an awesome job. My talents and interests are varied and they couldn’t fit in any institution. By accepting this, I accepted that I needed to make my OWN job, one where I could explore creativity and business and fun.

Tell us what you did to break up the pity party. What actions did you decide to take? Did someone help you buoy your spirits? Push you along?
I kept knitting and spinning. I started talking to everyone about it. I learned that my thing, my yarn and my vision, was something I could contribute to the world. It was a bunch of little, tiny actions, that led to me selling the yarn.

Can you look back on that moment and tell us how you felt when you did decide to take action? What results came about from your decision to take charge and move on?
The actions were so small and slow, that there wasn’t one big YAY moment until 3 years after my business began, when I realized I could quit my dayjob.

Everyone has a Someday problem hiding deep inside, even little ones. What variety of the Someday Syndrome do you currently harbor? What would you like to achieve but haven’t yet?
I’d like to take local fleeces and have them (without chemicals) millspun into a yarn that I’d dye. Whenever I start to work on this, it all seems a bit overwhelming

Examining your Someday Syndrome problem, what are you currently doing to resolve it and eliminate it from your life?
I’m meeting more local farmers and learning about the milling process, researching mills that process wool without chemicals. I’m also working on being OK with the big-ness of it.

Many people suffer the same problems you do. You’re not alone, and neither are they. What would you tell people in your situation right now to help them avoid what you’re going through?
Oh, I’m not sure I’d want to avoid any part of the path. My advice is to try new things. Throw out the stuff that doesn’t work and then try something new.

If you could ask for one thing, right now, to help you overcome your Someday Syndrome, what type of help would you ask for?
Patience. I’ve built everything in tiny steps and when big challenges/ideas occur, I need patience to remember to keep taking tiny steps.

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